When we tell Raageshwari Loomba that as a '90s kid, we remember her from the video, Pyar Ka Rang, where she wears a bandhini top with jeans, she laughs warmly. "I had wanted to dress up all cool like a pop star. But my brother had got a dupatta, and said let's use this as a top, and it worked so well. It became a style statement."

She is talking to us from London, where she now lives with her lawyer husband and four-year-old daughter. It's 10 am there, and Samaya is knocking on the door, asking mama why has she locked her in. "Look at her perspective. I have locked myself in, so I can talk to you, but she thinks I have locked her out," says Loomba, 42, who has turned author with Building a Happy Family (Penguin India). The book is a continuation of her inward journey, which was nudged by a debilitating condition she faced years ago. Bell's Palsy is a rare condition that causes temporary partial facial paralysis. Loomba turned to meditation, yoga and collaborated with motivational guru Jack Canfield. She now heads what she calls a mindfulness company, Unicorn World Events, out of London, and tours the world to give motivational talks that hinge on the power of the mind. "The roots of the book were sown then. I was reading about how we manifest what we think about. You have to start visualising the life you want, and start seeing it. I asked myself if we are training our kids to do this." And out of that thought came Building a Happy Family, which focuses on the impact that positive reinforcement has on children.