A friend set me up with possessive ex!

One of my friends recently set me up on a date with a guy she grew up with. We got along well and began dating a few months ago. I recently found out that he had been in a relationship with my friend a few years ago, which is something she hadn’t mentioned all this time. When I asked her about it, she said the relationship hadn’t worked out because he was too possessive. I asked her why she set me up with her ex-boyfriend after knowing this, and her response was that he had changed after all this time. She said she was sure I would get along with him, but I have been uncomfortable with this since I found out about his past. What should I do?
This depends upon how you feel about your relationship. Your boyfriend’s past is important, of course, and it is unfortunate that your friend chose to withhold that information while making presumptions about you. She may assume he has changed and have reasons to believe you can make this work with him, but what happens next is entirely your prerogative. Your boyfriend should have been open even if your friend wasn’t, and you can choose to ignore their previous relationship or look purely at how you feel about him. Either way, this will come across as a betrayal of trust, which is never easy to handle. For now, the best thing to do is air your views openly and honestly, with your friend as well as your boyfriend. Tell them why you feel betrayed, how they hurt you, and why this will take you some time to process and move beyond. It is possible that you may not be able to put this behind you, just as it is possible that your boyfriend has evolved and is ready for a mature relationship that works for you. Take it one day at a time, gauge how you feel every week, and you will have an answer about whether you want this.

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