Dr love with Mid-day: My friend’s husband is a bad person!

My friend’s husband is a bad person, and his presence is coming in between our friendship. We have been friends since school, and I used to think she would trust me with her life. I have been trying to tell her about him for a while, but she refuses to entertain criticism about him. It’s almost as if she is brainwashed and can’t acknowledge any negativity about him. Some of our other friends have already begun to distance themselves from her and she doesn’t care, which makes me believe she won’t have a problem if I get out of her life, too. This is heartbreaking because I love her and thought we would be friends for the rest of our lives. How do I save her?
You can’t save anyone who doesn’t want to be saved, and certainly not if this is an adult we’re talking about. Your reasons may be justified and your worries perfectly valid, but the fact remains that this is someone married to a person she wants to be with. He may be the worst person possible but that doesn’t change a situation she has wilfully chosen to be in. All you can do is protect yourself, tell her that you’re there if she ever needs a friend, and hope that time does what your comments haven’t been able to do. If this means distancing yourself from her until that happens, it’s just something you have to get used to because this isn’t in your control.

How can I get my husband to take our physical intimacy more seriously? He thinks of it as a task and I don’t feel cherished, which is sad because I know he loves me.
You should be able to talk to your husband about this because that kind of honesty can build a strong, healthy relationship. If you need professional help or advice, talk about that too because sexuality can be difficult for some people to navigate. Be open about what you want and keep talking about it.