That depends upon what she did and what you are prepared to accept or forgive. If this relationship isn’t working, and you choose to be with her to avoid feeling guilty, that may not be the right thing to do
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My husband has increasingly been spending a lot of time with a female colleague and seems to be a little on edge whenever I ask him about this. I don’t know if he has a crush on her but there is always an element of guilt when her name crops up, and it is starting to worry me. I know he won’t cheat on me or do anything to hurt me, but I am concerned because I think about whether this is a sign that he isn’t getting the companionship he needs from our marriage. We don’t spend as much time together as we used to, and I am aware of that, but it’s also because we both have full professional lives and responsibilities that make it harder for us to connect the way we used to in the early years of our marriage. What should I do about this?
You should work on rebuilding the connection that has faltered. You know your husband won’t cheat on you, so this is probably more about just him looking for someone to talk to. If you aren’t that person, it is a problem that needs to be addressed. Marriages, like all relationships, need work and you shouldn’t blame yourself because this is something your husband needs to consider too. Talk to him about a holiday, make time for dates on weekends, and be honest about what you both want going forward. If this colleague of his bothers you, tell him why that is and allow him the opportunity to explain why there is a sense of guilt whenever he speaks about her. You know what needs to be fixed, so start there.
Am I right to dump my girlfriend just because she made a mistake and may go to prison?
That depends upon what she did and what you are prepared to accept or forgive. If this relationship isn’t working, and you choose to be with her to avoid feeling guilty, that may not be the right thing to do.
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