I need him to stop love-bombing me

Why do some people act as if they are falling in love so easily when they don’t know the other person well enough? I have been dating this guy for a month, and he keeps talking about how there is something special about his feelings for me. The more he says this, the harder it is for me to take him seriously. This is a problem because I genuinely like him and want to get to know him. I would love to be in a relationship with him too, but only if I feel as if he is ready to take this slowly. I sometimes want to tell him why he’s crazy for thinking that he’s in love with me. How do I get him to act normal and give whatever this is a chance?
If you think he’s being irrational, tell him why you think this needs to slow down. Yes, it is impossible for anyone to get to know another person that quickly, and what he defines as love may be just an infatuation, but it takes two people to decide how a relationship or friendship has to evolve. If it’s too fast, nothing stops you from calling it out and asking for him to slow down. You are under no obligation to commit to anything, nor do you have to meet him very often if that helps him control his feelings a little. It can be frustrating to take on the role of moderator, but you have to set boundaries and give him time to understand what they are. If he doesn’t get it, that is also an indication of whether this is someone you should risk getting into a committed relationship with.

A girl I have been meeting on and off for coffee has invited me to a friend’s birthday but says it’s definitely not a date. Is she leading me on?
How is she leading you on by being honest about this situation? If you don’t want to attend, you’re free to decline.