She seems to have ghosted me

How do I talk to an old friend if she has stopped speaking with me? It has been a month since we had our last conversation. She is more than a friend to me. I have feelings for her and told her about this. She said she needed time to think about it and then, for some inane reason, we stopped communicating. I just want her back in my life. How do I approach her? What should I do?
— Krishna T
You can be honest about why you want her in your life and reiterate that you are willing to accept her decision when it comes to acknowledging your feelings. It’s possible that she doesn’t know how to navigate this without any potential awkwardness or acrimony on your part, so sending her a message about her importance in your life as a friend may help. It is also possible that she has decided not to be friends, let alone reciprocate your feelings in any way, so you should be prepared for that too. At the end of the day, she has the prerogative to decide whether to be in your life. What may be an inane reason for you to stop communicating may not be that ridiculous for her. Apologise for that too, because you may have misinterpreted the situation. If there is still no communication, her message is clear.Am I doing the right thing by moving in with my boyfriend? We have been together for three years and he thinks it’s time, but I am apprehensive. Have the two of you discussed your future or spoken about why moving in is important? If you aren’t comfortable with the idea, the onus of reassuring you is on him. Talk about your fears, what you imagine moving in together may be like, and why this is bothering you. Relationships need to evolve organically, soit is important that you make this move only when you are ready to commit to it as much as he is.

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