I want to try and make my relationship with my girlfriend stronger, and this sometimes causes arguments because it means I am always honest about everything that is on my mind. She thinks it isn’t healthy to be too honest because I often end up saying things I regret later, but I want to be authentic and can’t find a way of showing this if I have to filter everything I say. We have been together for almost two years now, and I find it strange that she still isn’t comfortable with telling me what’s on her mind. How do we evolve as a couple if one of us isn’t as open as the other?
Your girlfriend isn’t being dishonest with you. She isn’t doing anything that points to a lack of comfort with you either. All she is saying is that she prefers to say something only when she is okay with the idea of saying it. It’s an extension of her personal space, and we all have boundaries we define for ourselves. Yours may be different from hers, but both need to be respected. If she believes you say things that can cause more harm than good, it makes sense to listen to her because she is telling you how she feels and giving you advice on how to make it better. You say you want to make your relationship stronger but refuse to give her the same courtesy that you expect her to give you. Listening is as important as speaking, and you should consider starting with that. As for evolving as a couple, that will happen with time as long as you are both working towards a shared future.

My boyfriend has a problem with one of my closest friends and refuses to come out on group outings if she is around. How do I get him to be more accepting?
Why not try and understand where he’s coming from and why he has a problem? If his explanation makes sense, why force him?