Dear Diana,
I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 26. She is of a dominating nature. If I do anything that she does not like, she has a go at me. She makes such a hue and cry about it besides making me feel that I have done something terribly wrong. At times, she can be this nice, sweet person, but not for long. She always bullies me into doing things the way she wants to. If she does not get her way, she cries foul. I am fed up of this behaviour. When I ask her she tells me to shut up as she is older to me.
— Rishi


Illustration/ Amit Bandre 

Dear Rishi,
Your woman is certainly a dominating woman. She is using you quite a bit, try talking to her about it. When she tells you that she is older to you, tell her that in a relationship both partners are equal. If her behaviour is irritating you, then maybe you should give a serious thought whether you want to continue in the relationship.