Dear Diana,
I am gay. Around six months back, I met another gay guy through some mutual friends. A few weeks later, we met again and exchanged phone numbers and email addresses. Then we met again on a date at my place before Diwali. We had a great time and liked each other very much.

The next day, we exchanged texts on how we had a great time. But then both of us went to our respective hometowns for the festival and lost contact.

I missed him and texted him during Diwali and he responded. When we returned to our homes, I again texted him and he responded. I am worried because he is never the one to text or call first. He texts only in response to mine. I am really falling for him.

I don't know whether he too feels about me in the same way, but I am unable to control my emotions. I don't want to get into a one-sided affair as it becomes very painful later. How do I know if he is interested in me too? He is a nice guy. I would like to be friends with him at least, if not more.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
My understanding of a relationship is this. If you want to be with someone, can't spend a moment apart from them, etc, your every action will reflect that.

And while you feel that way, it needn't be the case with him. Maybe he is playing hard to get, maybe he doesn't see this going anywhere and has decided not to lead you on and is being polite by simply respnding to your messages and calls.

It wouldn't hurt to tell him how you feel about him. If he feels the same way, you can work things up from there. If not, you can continue being friends with this guy and try wooing him after a while.u00a0 Maybe he will see how keen you are on being with him and decide to give it a shot.

Can't give up either!

Dear Diana,
I am 28 years old. I have been married for the past two years and have one child. I am in a relationship with another girl. My wife and my girlfriend know about each other. I want to marry this girl, but I don't want to lose my wife and child. I am very confused. What should I do?