I just can't bear to see her get married to someone else

Dear Diana,
I am in love with my friend. One I've known for eight years now. She's way pretty but that is something I noticed only until it was too late. I always knew she was a good-hearted girl, ever-helpful and never asked for anything in return. She once proposed to me and I should've said yes at the time. Sadly, I didn't. At the time, I had laughed off the very notion. I remember seeing tears in her eyes that day. She never asked me again. We remained friends and it was all good. I had my share of girlfriends and I'd like to believe she had her share of boyfriends. The trouble is, she's engaged now and I have realised that losing her to another guy, could be theu00a0

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worst pain in the world. I tried to tell her but never found the words or the courage. Any advice?
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Brad

Dear Brad,
A Joni Mitchell hit comes to mind (one that Counting Crows made even more popular). It's called Big Yellow Taxi. The words I'm thinking: "Don't it always seem to go... that you don't know what you got till its gone...". We take the love we recieve for granted far too often and when it does pass us by, we behave like crybabies/dogs in the manger. You have to know why you want her in your life. Why not marrying her will kill you inside. Why the two of you are meant to be. You have to tell her how you feel. And I'm afraid I can't give you the words to say. When the time comes, you'll know what to say. The courage? You either have it or you don't!

Am having sex with my friend's mom!

Dear Diana,
I'm 18. I've been having sex with a 40-year-old woman for some months now. This woman is my friend's mom. Sometimes we have sex even when he's sleeping in another room. Should I stop?