I want to improve the chemistry we share

Dear Diana,
We've been deeply in love for four years now. Trouble is, we don't think alike and end up having big fights. We are passionate about the love we share, though and so, patch up nicely every single time. I want to improve my chemistry with him. Also, he is very cautious about having sex as he doesn't want to make it a habit that might pose future problems and hence, altogether avoids doing it. Kindly adviseu2026

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
After four years together, one would expect you to predict the possible roadblacks and think up remedies to avoid them. I guess opposites attract (though not entirely) and so, you're goingto continue having big arguments. Also, one can never be too cautious when it comes to sex. Most importantly because of the high risk of contracting STDs or the HIV+ virus.u00a0 Avoiding it altogether because of the possibility of an addiction to it or the possibility of that becoming the end-all of being in a relationship is simply stupid. If it's the odds of having an unwanted pregnancy on his hands that's troubling him, there are always options of making sure you're safe. Chemistry-wise, different things work for different people.

In love with an older woman...

Dear Diana,
I have a peculiar problem. I am in love with a married woman, who is six years elder than me. She has two children. Will it work out?