Dear Diana,

We've been together three years and he recently asked me to marry him. He is the kindest, most loving guy and he treats me like a princess. However over the past eight months, I have been getting feelings for an old friend of his, and the feelings just keep growing the more I talk to this new guy.

I have asked myself if it is just lust but am sure it's not, I am in love with the new guy, who has told me that he loves me and is willing to let me choose. He says he will wait around as he is crazy about me and I can't stop thinking about him either. I don't know what to do because I don't want to upset either guy. I love them both so much! But I can't have both...

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

You can't have both. You will have to make a choice between two guys you love. Because if you don't, you wouldn't be fair to either guy. In fact, them being old friends would be a problem because it would drive a wedge between the two because of you and they will always blame you.

Of course, dumping your boyfriend would mean him resenting both you and his friend for as long as his memory serves him. All this complicates matters and you will be at the receiving end of resentment no matter who you choose among the two. It seems like a good idea to stick by your boyfriend for the very simple reason that you know him all too well and you know what to expect with him around. With the new guy, you're starting from scratch.

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Dear Diana,

I have feelings for my best guy friend and I recently found out that he has feelings for me too. I really like him and want to go out with him but am scared that if it goes wrong it might ruin our friendship.