Dear Diana,

How do guys get over a relationship so easily? How is it fair to me that I am the one that has to suffer? It's been over a week since my ex broke up with me and I am coping with it but there are days it hurts. It's not fair that I am the one that has to be sad and cry while he can sleep soundly at night. I feel like he has completely forgotten about me and doesn't care anymore.

I have questions for him but I feel it's too soon and would result into a fight. I need closure. I can't endure this. How can he be so lazy and not want to call me but be willing to call his best (girl) friend and keep that relationship going? How does he just forget about the last year and move on? I wish I was as heartless so I wouldn't have to deal with this sorrow. I don't know what to do. No-one helps, especially my friends.

They are not here for me and are no help ay all. I have nothing to distract me and I get angrier and sadder everyday. I haven't talked to him in about four days. Do I call him asking for closure or just endure this pain?

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

You sound like you think your ex-boyfriend and your friends all owe you something because you've been dumped. Unfortunately, that is not always how it works. Sometimes we have to learn to become more independent and supportive of ourselves. I know the end of a relationship is painful and sad.

But, dwelling on that, or expecting someone else to be able to fix it, will only frustrate you more, and make the grief last longer. This guy doesn't call you anymore because its over. You might have hoped to remain friends, but you can't expect it. it's best to grieve alone.

Showing him your sadness will do nothing to change his mind, it will just make him think poorly of you. Break-ups are hard and I wish I could give you some magical answer to make the pain go away, but I can't. No one can. The only way to fix it is time.

Can't tell her I love her...

Dear Diana,

I love my sister's sister-in-law but cannot bring myself to tell her this or confide in anyone else for that matter. What should I do?