5 positive lessons that came out of the Oscars night snafu

Jordan Horowitz left holds up the cue card revealing the real winner right Jimmy KimmelIt was a night that was meant to be memorable But as chance would have it the Best Film announcement mixup is how the 89th edition will go down in the history of the Academy Awards Those few minutes of commotion and embarrassment however couldnt eclipse the good that emerged from the disaster We rummaged through the bedlam to bring you five positive lessons that came out of one crazy nightEmma Stone hugs Mahershala Ali after the goofup is discoveredHumourHost Jimmy Kimmel was having a dream night what with his potshots at President Trump raining candies on the Oscars audience and bringing in an unsuspecting tourist bus at the ceremony until things went haywire His response using humour to deflect the blunder by reminding the audience its just an awards show the good news is we got to see some extra speechesPwCrsquos Martha Ruiz and Brian Cullinan before the eventIts value at the workplaceHumour is a fantastic stress buster says psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty adding It also saves you from making another mistake immediately because it eases anxiety Obviously the bottom line here is not to laugh at and ridicule others mistakes Easy as it may seem the ability to laugh at ones own mistakes is a profound act It comes with the acceptance that being silly is part of being human says Milind Jadhav certified life coachConsulting psychiatrist and author Dr Dayal Mirchandani draws attention to the fact that humour is part of a presenters repertoire Dont try to be funny if you are not comfortable with it as it could only make things worse It is a matter of using your personality effectively he advises Dr Shetty recalls how the Windows voice assistant failed Satya Nadella at one of his first presentations after taking over Microsoft Though he didnt crack a joke about it he was able to smoothly get on using his charmHorowitz hugs Moonlight director Barry Jenkins PicsGetty imagesTransparencyBeing robbed of the Best Picture Oscar brought embarrassment to the La La Land team that was halfway through their acceptance speech and took away precious moments of unadulterated glory from the Moonlight guys who had indeed won Yet once things became clear La La Land producer Jordan Horowitz immediately invited the Moonlight team on stage holding out the page in front of television cameras revealing the winners nameHarish ShettyIts value at the workplaceShame hinders transparency The quicker you own up to a mistake the faster you move on leaving behind fewer scars shares Dr Shetty who suggests that if the office seems like a daunting place to admit ones fault chatting over tea in a less intimidating environment can helpJadhav equates transparency with personal integrity At work there may arise a situation where if you dont come clean nobody would know it was you who did it But this belief in being able to get away with things would ultimately impact your life with greater regrets in store he says adding For a leader handling a team being transparent lends credence to their authority which ensures the teams wellbeingMilind JadhavOwning upBarely a few hours after the mixup accounting firm PriceWaterhouseCoopers that has been handling the counting of votes and winner envelopes at the Oscars owned up and issued an apology to the award presenters Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway and the teams of both the moviesIts value at the workplaceNobody walks into their workplace thinking I am going to commit a mistake today says Jadhav That said the act of apologising calls for the acknowledgement that ones action has led to consequences whose impact will be borne by others and that one is willing to make up for it he says adding Can you try to compensate by putting in a few extra hours at work or waiving off your fee for that task If not ask your senior or a colleague how you can lessen the impact of your mistake Dr Shetty adds that apology should emerge from attitude not strategy What sets effective professionals apart from overly apologetic sympathyseeking workers is their willingness to learn from mistakesEmpathyIn that moment of confusion it is notable that there were no stage outbursts or walkouts and the empathy with which both movie teams handled the situation endured As facts gradually emerged those impacted steered clear of blame gameIts value at the workplaceThe mixup underlined the fact that even at the most meticulously planned events things can go wrong it is only natural says Dr Shetty adding Whats important is not to use such an incident to exploit anothers feeling of guilt Jadhav cautions against getting into righteousness mode When someone commits a mistake it is easy to blame them Instead ask what caused them to falter The conversation about not letting the mistake recur can be saved for later he suggestsGrace and dignityThe tables had turned and the winners had become losers but both teams Moonlight and La La Land had people whod been in the show business long enough to understand that such things happen And it all came through in the words they spokeIts value at the workplaceAccording to Jadhav the way a person handles a complex situation especially where they are not at fault reflects their selfesteem and selfworth A selfassured person wont run others down Blame exposes your own insecurities he says A leaders tonality has to be carefully crafted so that it leaves the employee empowered not diminishedIf for instance a colleague finds it difficult to meet deadlines ask him if you can be of any help and take him through the process to understand where the problem lies instead of calling him slow he elaborates adding that the effectiveness of communication lies in the intention If saying that one is at fault seems difficult Dr Shetty suggests writing it down Several companies have leadership training programmes and teambuilding exercises that are helpful says Dr MirchandaniWhether they won or not those present at the Oscar night are all names to reckon with and they seem to have one thing in commonDr Mirchandani says Emotional intelligence is more important for success than intellectual intelligence