Why these authors and poets are doubling up as love gurus

Writer Qais Jaunpuri consoles a woman during the Aao Kahen Dil Ki Baat event at Human Arts Studio and Cafeacute in Andheri There Jaunpuri encouraged people to open up about problems that were bothering them PicTanvi PhondekarIt was November last year when romance writer Anjali Kriplani opened her inbox to a email from a stranger Hi Anjali the mail began I just finished reading your book Never Say Never Trust me this book was just like what Im going through right now Its been two years and Im still single and probably God has plans that I die single My dates have never lasted more than three months I also gave up my job and lost a friend a few months ago She was doing something wrong and I objected to that because according to me playing with others emotions is not fair Your book gives me comfortThe reader was a 25yearold from Bengaluru who until that day used to believe that her problems were hers alone Suddenly I felt that someone was experiencing the same feelings as me Chaithraa Mahadev who shot that email tells us now I wanted Anjali to know that her words had resonated with me and made me cope with my breakupRomance author Anjali Kriplani doesnt hesitate to play shrink on emailFor Kriplani letters like this are a norm mdash she receives at least two to four every month Author Faraaz Kazi known for his bestseller Truly Madly Deeply admits that 50 per cent of the fan mail that he gets fall in the category of outpourings And its unfair to ignore them he says When a reader picks up your book she is not just investing money but also time which is invaluable If they reach out to us we owe it to them to respond explains Kazi With the advent of social media the distance between the written word and writer too is slowly diminishing The result Writers of romance and sentimental fiction now appear to be donning the role of love doctors to people on the other side of the virtual world Whether they qualify to play shrink is debatable but writers argue otherwise People just want to be heard says Kriplani All we are doing is lending an earFaraaz KaziAre you listening Back in 2011 Qais Jaunpuri recalls inviting readers friends and strangers to join him for a session where they discuss their problems The initiative has now translated into a monthly event called Aao Kahen Dil Ki Baat Last weekend nearly 30 attended a gathering at Human Arts Studio and Cafeacute in Andheri They were encouraged to talk about their problems in front of strangers Those who found it difficult to address their issues in public were asked to write them down The idea is to provide a platform for people to unburden themselves Truth be told nobody wants to listen to anyone anymore It makes a world of a difference when you vent Often its easier with a stranger says JaunpuriActorwriter Arunoday Singh known for his Sufi poetry on his Instagram feed admits that its the sincerity of the emails he receives that compels him to reply I get a lot of messages from people who are genuinely lonely and working through a tough time They write to either tell me that my words helped or to ask for help On the one hand I cant ignore these mails but Im also not qualified to help them Its a doubleedged sword I find that if I can help somebody by pointing them in the right direction or at least letting them feel that they are not alone Ive done my bit in some wayArunoday SinghWe dont need counsellingWriter Seet Mishra who attended Jaunpuris event recently says she did not participate with the intention of finding an answer to her problem I dont think I needed counselling I just wanted the freedom to express myself At the end of the day no matter what solution someone offers we do what we want to doThis is why Kazi who coincidentally has done his post graduation in psychology doesnt shy away from responding to his readersI have seen that most people know what they have to do but they need someone else to tell them the same If that someone else is a figure they respect then nothing like it Its like me going on repeating what I have to do standing in front of the mirror letting my brain come to terms with it whereas when someone I respect tells me the samehellip poof magic happens