Bipasha Basu and Karan Singh Grover are 'lame', 'goofy' and very much in love!

When Bipasha Basu and Karan Singh Grover stepped into a Bandra eatery for this interview it was refreshing to not see them flanked by their managers They find this writer waiting at a table greetings are exchanged orders are placed after a mutual exchange of notes on our favourite smoothie and just like that without a formal start signal we realise we are five minutes into the conversationBipasha Basu with husband Karan Singh GroverTheir unassuming demeanour takes a little getting used to But then almost everything Basu and Grover do appears so They steer clear from industry parties and brandish their love on social media making them the least private celeb couple we know Now with the latest condom commercial they have shot for they have become the first married couple to have endorsed such a brand Why cant a married couple endorse condoms Just because you are married does not mean you have no responsibility towards your partner Basu saysWe cant use sex as a dirty word We wished that the conversation moved from sensuality to planned pregnancy protection from STDs and of course loving your woman Who talks about this in this country The ad was offered to them soon after they were married and the decision to star in it was mutual But they waited till they were sure the communication was finetuned to convey what they wanted to sayBipasha Basu and husband Karan Singh GroverCall them an evolved couple and Basu rolls her eyes You know Karan loves to use that word for us But we are what we are I love taking photos and sharing them My friends call me a Japanese tourist I have been like that since I was a little girl You are still a little girl Grover says landing a peck on her cheek A slightly conscious Basu then smiles and says We love expressing love We are goofs We are lame Karan has his own theory on this When you are acting you get to be someone else anyway Why be so at other timesEdited excerpts from the interviewOn intimacyBasu We shared great chemistry and even while shooting this ad Karan looked like he was on holiday He was in the pool all day and each time the shot was ready we had to beg him to come out Grover I am getting paid to get into the pool and make out with my hot wife What do you expectBasu He was always into the momentGrover I am always into youBasu I dont think the ad is steamy per say It just shows our playfulness We did not need a directors instructions Thats how we are when we are together anyway It was comforting to have my husband with me One things for sure we would not have done this ad with another costarA still from the condom commercialA physical and a nonphysical trait you are attracted to in each otherBasu Physical would be the whole package Nonphysical would be his heart He has a golden heart and he will hate me for saying this but he is more sensitive than meGrover You are not supposed to say these things in publicBasu I need to keep his macho image goingGrover I like her eyes if I had to chooseBasu Why dont you tell her what you really like Im the most ungraceful person and thats what he cant get overGrover Let me explain So you see her working out in the gym so hot and sexy and then she just comes out and sits and talks in the most ungraceful manner makes a faceBasu laughs I said to him last evening I am like a Parsi aunty at home who likes to just lounge in her nightieOn social mediaBasu I had to convince him to get on it Hes not a poser unlike me After the first shot he starts making facesGrover I dont even understand the art of taking photos lighting cropping I dont understand what to do with myself in photos thats why I make faces But Im learning and Im better nowOn trollsGrover Really People troll me Like they say bad thingsBasu The negativity is little when compared to the love we get back Yes people can be brutal but does it bother us No Social media is a great tool but you need nerves of steel to deal with the criticism that it can draw If our friends normal couples post their cosy moments on social media why cant we And why does it have to be seen as a brave actGrover Celebs are private because they fear judgmentBasu Its hard to read the mind of trolls but we do feel sad for themOn consent and MeTooBasu When its a crime like rape or sexual assault that is horrific and one obviously doesnt know what to do But when you can make a choice you cannot be the victim I have never taken this much sh from anyone in the industry I have lost out on stuff but I have slept in peaceGrover But then you are a strong womanBasu No I was only 15 when I started But I made tough choices to stand up for myself and not be the victimGrover If you dont respect what the other person wants sexually or otherwise then thats weird Nothing that follows then is real I am not sure what exactly this campaign is achieving but at least people are coming out and sharing stuffOn socialisingBasu He sleeps at 1030 pm wakes up at 5 am How can we partyGrover We have also never understood what happens in these parties Yes people network I say boss thats never going to happen for usBasu We only go when we are well rested and of course most often to honour an invitation say thank youOn dealing with the pastGrover Whatever life that was good or bad it brought me to her Now my real life has begunBasu I have had my share of sadness and I needed this storm of laughter and happiness someone looking after me Initially I was like is this really happening to me I never had anyone looking after meGrover When I told my parents about her my dad said beta tumhara toh sab kuch wrong hai how did you manage this If you judge me by what has happened in my life thats not good I chose not to live a lie That is hard to doBasu You need to give a person a chance Initially my parents did not like him And now they are so fond of him Mum says Yeh mera beta tu meri bahu Hes the fisheating conchshell playing damaad they had thought theyd never haveOn starting a familyBasu Hes great with children and I love kids too but I dont think we are ready yetGrover Children should never be a mistake that is also one thing we want to communicate through the ad Planned pregnancy is crucial Well get there when the time is right