Did I leave my ex in haste?

I am a 27-year old and recently began dating a man I met online. He is kind, courteous, and it feels as if we are a great match because we like each others company a lot. It has just been three months so I am optimistic but cant decide if this is working or not because its too soon. The problem is my ex-boyfriend, whom I have begun to re-evaluate. Our relationship ended because we couldnt see eye to eye on a few things, and I have begun to wonder if our problems were easy to fix. I think we were hasty and didnt take the time to work on what we could. The more I think about it, the more I worry that I may have lost someone genuinely important to me. I am confused because these feelings clash with how I feel about the person I am currently dating. How do I resolve this?You cant have it both ways, obviously, and you also have no idea if your ex feels the same way because your evaluation of what went wrong is purely one-sided. If you want to sort things out in your head, it should begin with honesty. If you need time to figure out where things stand with the person youre dating, he deserves to know this. Tell him why youre confused, and the way he reacts will also tell you a lot about the kind of person he is. It may also make sense to reach out to your ex and find out if he is still interested in having a conversation about why your relationship ended the way it did. If he refuses, it will tell you whether this line of inquiry is worth pursuing at all. Either way, clarity can only come with asking yourself some difficult questions and being open about them with both these people involved. Do take into consideration though, that the past can often be rewritten in ones mind because memory has a way of playing tricks. The inbox is now open to take your most carnal and amorous queries. Send your questions on email to lovedoc@mid-day.com