My girlfriend has huge expenses and it’s pushing her into debt. She doesn’t borrow from me, but she has taken a lot from the bank, and the stress of repayment is making it hard for her to manage her day-to-day life. She is always stressed and this has an impact on me too because our dates are no longer pleasant. She is worried, distracted, and constantly thinking about money. She loves me a lot and it hurts me to see her like this, but I also know that this situation is entirely of her own making. I can’t give her advice because she won’t take it, and I am at a stage where I worry about our future because of her habits. Should I assume this relationship is doomed to fail?
Your girlfriend’s predicament does have the potential to derail your relationship because there are real implications related to her financial health. If she isn’t open to your advice and can’t resolve this, you will have to ask yourself if you are prepared to put in the work to ride this difficult period out. A strong relationship is about being there for your partner during tough times, but there has to be some acknowledgement of why you are both in this situation too. The only way forward is honesty about where things stand and what you both need to do to address this. She has the right to reject your advice but can’t shy away from how her situation is having an impact on your relationship.

Should I block my ex if he still sends me flirty messages? He is with someone else and they are supposed to be serious, so I don’t know why he’s doing this. Does this mean he’s not sure about us?
If he isn’t being direct with you, and is doing this while being with someone else, he is being disrespectful to two people, and you should mention that first. If you are uncomfortable with this, you must insist on maintaining personal boundaries.