My sister asked me to take a break from my relationship because she felt it was not good for me. This happened because I confided in her that my partner and I had been arguing a lot about some things. I listened to her because she’s older and has a lot more experience with people and relationships, but I am starting to regret it because I think I should have tried to resolve our issues instead of taking some time apart. I don’t know if this break was a mistake, but I am worried that my partner will choose to end this relationship if he feels as if my reaction was too drastic. If I go back to him against my sister’s wishes and this doesn’t work out, she may not give me advice in the future, so I feel as if I am stuck between two people. What should I do?
You should do what you think is best for your relationship irrespective of how you assume either person will react. Your sister may choose to not give you advice in the future, but you don’t know that. Neither do you know how your partner will react if you reach out and ask about resolving these differences. Honesty is your best bet here because they both need to know how you feel. Your sister may mean well but needs to accept that you are an adult too and that your life isn’t necessarily meant to follow her path. Your partner too needs to know why you arrived at this decision and how you feel about it. If he chooses to not engage and let this end, that is his prerogative. Either way, speaking up about your feelings and making wilful choices about your life is the only way forward because it will prepare you for any further challenges that lie ahead, whether they are related to relationships or just life in general. Speak to them both and tell them what’s on your mind before assuming the worst.

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