Dr Love with Mid-Day: Should I just stop dating for a while?

I am a 28-year-old guy and I always feel as if I am not happy when I’m single. I have had many relationships and they never last more than a few months, which only makes me upset until I find someone else. It’s almost as if I don’t know how to be by myself, which is starting to worry me a little. Should I force myself to not date and figure out if there is a problem, or keep dating until I find someone I want to be with for a longer period? I feel as if not dating for a while will help me understand myself a little better, which may help me choose someone I genuinely want to be with, rather than someone I just want for a casual relationship. What should I do?
You should definitely set aside time to ask yourself questions about what you really want in a relationship, because an honest answer may offer you insights that help you change the way you approach people. There’s nothing wrong with casual relationships if that’s what you want, but an inability to be by yourself hints at something you aren’t confronting. Distracting yourself with relationships only works up to a point, which is why taking some time to understand yourself, your desires and expectations, can all make a difference when it comes to dating again. You don’t need to lock yourself away, but don’t shy away from thinking about this either.

My girlfriend always gets annoyed whenever I try to spice up our sex life. What am I doing wrong?
You’re probably not listening enough because there may be a mismatch between how you both look at physical intimacy. Try talking about it more, be open about what you think is a problem, and give her time and space to be comfortable enough to share her perspective. A lot of intimacy can be built by being emotionally open, so practice that too and try taking it slowly based on what her preferences are.