I got engaged a few months ago, but I am still not ready to marry because I have other commitments on the professional front. Marriage will derail things for me at the office and prevent me from achieving what I want to, which is why I want to delay this for at least a year. My fiancé said he would wait for me but is now starting to put a lot of pressure on me because he says his family isn’t comfortable with an engagement that goes on for so long. I have told him to speak to them and stand up for me, but he doesn’t seem to be able to do that. Is this a red flag? If he can’t speak for me now, how will he be on my side after we are married? I can’t accept this just because of pressure and am afraid he will break up. How do I get him to understand my perspective?
This is a red flag because you are both committing to a life-changing relationship. It can’t begin if one of you isn’t fully on board because there will be all kinds of issues that will have to be resolved together. If he can’t wait, or stand up for you, and you aren’t willing to accept this under pressure, there is nothing that can be done. A compromise may lead to resentment, so why not have a frank conversation about what you are both willing to give up? An honest conversation about expectations can be revealing because it will help you both arrive at a decision about what to do next.

How do I get over someone who passed away over a year ago? No one I meet comes close to the kind of person he was.
You are dealing with grief and should accept that this is a process. It may seem as if no one can replace the person you have lost, and it’s okay to live with that feeling until you start to feel stronger.