Falling hard for my best friend...

I think I am falling in love with my best friend and I am wondering if I should come right out and tell her about it. We have been friends since school and know everything about each other, which is good and bad. She has been single for a few months now and I suspect she knows that I have feelings for her, but she isn’t saying anything. We are both in our mid-20s and I am starting to believe this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem is what might happen if she doesn’t feel as strongly about me. I will continue to be friends but not being able to consider a serious, lifelong commitment may be too hard to bear. That fear of having to deal with those emotions is making me keep these thoughts to myself. At the same time, if I say nothing, there is always a chance that she will date someone and I won’t know what to do if that happens. I am confused. What should I do?
This is someone you know and trust, and the possibility of rejection shouldn’t change how you feel about her as a friend. It’s unrealistic to assume that a friend has to share your feelings, but the only way to find out where things stand is to be vulnerable and honest about what you think. Rejection may prevent a lifelong commitment of the sort you envision, but it doesn’t take away the bond you already share with someone you have known for most of your life. Take some time to think about her importance in your life and approach this conversation with an open mind. It’s also possible that she may feel differently in the near future when she has had some time to evaluate what you have to say. The best thing is to say what you have to, give her time, and let her know that her decision doesn’t change your friendship in any way.

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