He posts everything on social media!

My husband and I have different approaches to social media, which is causing some strain in our marriage. He is always posting stuff about us and my life, and I know his relatives and friends follow him, which means they know more about us than I am comfortable with. He laughs it off when I tell him not to post anything that isnt too generic. I dont have social media handles and dont believe in sharing anything about myself to strangers, which he thinks is harmless. Maybe its because hes male and doesnt see the world from my perspective, but I cant condone it just because of his ignorance. He says I am blowing this out of proportion, while I think he is gaslighting me and making it seem as if I am being immature just because everyone we know is on Facebook or Instagram. If this continues, I have decided to separate from him just to send a strong message about how serious I am. Is this too much? Should I just accept it to save my marriage?This isnt about your marriage alone; its about your personal space and boundaries you have drawn for yourself. If your husband doesnt respect them, he doesnt respect you. There is nothing wrong with wanting to control what people should or shouldnt know about you, and your husband has no right to put up anything that crosses those boundaries because he doesnt own you or your personal life. A separation is a strong message though, and not one you should take lightly. This isnt to say you shouldnt do what you need to, but its possible that he hasnt grasped why this matters to you. Tell him about your plans to separate if this goes on and give him a chance to empathise and come around to your point of view. If that doesnt work, its obvious that he isnt willing to give you the respect you deserve. That is when you may have to take a more drastic step. The inbox is now open to take your most carnal and amorous queries. Send your questions on email to lovedoc@mid-day.com