He seems to have changed...

My boyfriend and I began working together in the same year after graduating. We followed different career paths, and our relationship evolved over the years. It has now been almost three years since we began dating and we are very much in love. The one thing that has changed is our professional lives and financial standing. I haven’t strayed too much from what I used to do, and what I used to earn, while he has become increasingly successful very quickly. He is now in a management position and is poised to take on an even bigger role within the next year or so. This change has affected him in small ways, primarily in the way he looks at money or treats it. He is now more concerned about where we go out or how much we need to spend, which wasn’t a problem earlier because we were both aware of our bank balance. Should I be worried about how his success may change our future together?
Change is inevitable and can come in any form, be it professional or personal growth. The important thing to keep in mind is your relationship with him and whether you are both sure about what you want from each other, as well as what you want to achieve together. His success doesn’t have to change anything between you if you are both capable of being open about this. Talk about money, how it affects you both, and why it bothers you. If you are uncomfortable about something he does or says, mention it, so he becomes aware. There is the possibility of a blind spot here, because he may not always look at a situation from your perspective. If you can communicate how you feel, or why something related to his success is making you uneasy, it will allow him to adjust as he goes along. To say nothing is a bad idea because it only prevents him from keeping you and your feelings in mind as his professional life changes.

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