I’m not attracted to him anymore

How do I change my level of interest in my partner to make him more appealing? We have been in a relationship for almost four years, and I no longer feel like getting physically intimate with him. It’s not as if we are no longer in love with each other; it’s more a sense of familiarity that makes it hard for me to want to get intimate. He is aware of this, and we have spoken of it often, but he can’t do or say anything to help. It’s as if we are both accepting that this is how things will be, and I don’t want that to happen to us. We are pretty sure we will be together for the rest of our lives, and I don’t want us to turn into roommates and be okay with that. What can we do?
You have both acknowledged the issue and are aware that neither of you seem to be able to change this situation. It’s when an outsider may be able to help, and speaking to a professional may offer you both the tools or impetus you need to make things better. Opening up to a counsellor can be difficult because this isn’t a conversation everyone can have easily, but you recognise how important intimacy is for the well-being of any relationship. Sometimes, it’s just a question of changing how we communicate with our partners, so speak to him and approach this with an open mind. You are both committed to making this work, which shows that your current situation is anything but broken.

How do I get over being insecure about my looks? It gets in the way of how I date people, and I want to approach them with more confidence.
Being aware of one’s insecurity is great because it allows one to work on underlying issues that may be responsible. Sometimes, it’s also about being with a supportive partner, so think about the kind of people you are dating and how they make you feel.