I’m not in love with man I’m marrying

I am a 30-year-old woman and am planning to get married in six months to my best friend. We have been dating for a year, which happened after years of just being friends. I don’t know if I am making a mistake, not because I don’t care about him, but because I sometimes feel as if I am just settling because there is no option. The love I feel is more platonic than romantic, and I have never been able to tell him this because I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I know he genuinely loves me, and will always care about me, but I ask myself if I deserve more than this. Should I marry even if I’m not in love?
There’s nothing wrong with how you feel, and it’s always great to be self-aware. You should have this conversation with him even if it’s difficult because you owe him that honesty. Your doubts aren’t misplaced, and it’s also okay to not have romantic feelings for someone but hiding them away doesn’t resolve anything. This is supposed to be your best friend and one of the nicest things about being close to someone is to have the opportunity to be vulnerable and honest about what you think. You may feel as if you are settling, but this is a lifelong commitment you are choosing to make because you believe this relationship meets some of your needs. Talk about them, ask him what he thinks, and don’t be afraid to discuss feelings because you may be surprised at how this changes the nature of your relationship. Also, don’t hesitate to ask for time because doubts may be normal, but entering into a marriage when you aren’t comfortable with the idea may cause you both some pain in the future. Take your time, ask for space, and keep lines of communication open because that is how you will be able to resolve this as well as any other issues that crop up as you both grow older.

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