Scared I won’t find a partner

I am a 24-year-old woman and have been trying to get into a serious relationship for a few years now. All my friends are dating, or have been dating guys for a while, and I feel as if I am being left behind. I meet a lot of people and have gone out with a few of them, but nothing really happens. We chat, they meet me once or twice, and then we just stop interacting. I have reached out to a few of them, but they don’t respond after a while, and it makes me feel as if I am desperate. There is nothing wrong with me, and my friends think it’s just bad luck, but this is worrying me a lot. I wonder if I will ever find someone, and don’t want to feel lonely all the time. What should I do to change this situation?
Luck has nothing to do with this, nor should you worry about being left behind because we all have different lives and circumstances. Feeling left out is understandable given that your friends are dating, but you have to give yourself time and acknowledge that this isn’t like buying groceries. What you are looking for is a connection, and a reason for two people to want to keep meeting each other. This happens only when you meet as many people as possible, until you get to a point where you know what you’re looking for or start getting better at managing these dates. This isn’t to say you’re doing something wrong now; it is simply a point about how confidence is built over time. Be patient, think about what you’re looking for, and try dating people whom you believe you share similar interests with. Where you meet these guys also makes a difference, because it can tell you a lot about the kind of people they are. It may sometimes seem as if you are running out of time, but that has more to do with peer pressure than facts.

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