She does not talk about her past...

My girlfriend and I were recently at a party when a boy came up to us and acted very familiar with her. She brushed him off and he went away confused. When I asked her about him later, she said he was from her past and she didn’t feel like talking about him. I know there have been a few relationships she doesn’t talk about, and I have never pushed her about them because I want to give her time to open up. My problem is, she wants to know everything about me and my past. If I don’t tell her something, it upsets her. She wants to control all aspects of my personal life but doesn’t feel comfortable enough to talk about her life, which I think is hypocritical. I love her a lot and want this to work, but don’t know how I can if she doesn’t start to treat me as an equal. Should I simply stop telling her about myself?
You can start by telling her why this isn’t making you feel good, because that’s true. There is some hypocrisy if she insists on complete access to your life, but you should keep in mind that you are both entitled to talk about things you are comfortable with. Your personal lives have boundaries that you alone can draw, and the level of comfort you feel with each other may simply not be the same because it takes time. I suggest you talk about your feelings, explain why honesty and openness is important not just to this relationship but to your future together, and give her a chance to come up with a more plausible explanation. If things don’t change a few months down the line, it’s a sign that there isn’t any evolution. That is when you should think about what you want to do next. Communication is tricky and takes time to build, so I would encourage you to be patient and give her time and space until things get a little easier.

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