I am a 33-year old man and have been married for over a year. My wife and I dated in college, then went our separate ways after graduating, before meeting again a few years later. We reconnected and began dating, then decided to marry because it seemed as if we were destined to be together. I think I made a mistake though because the more time I spend with her, the more I feel as if she has changed. I keep thinking of her as she used to be in college, but she is not that person. I don’t know how to describe it, but I am afraid that our relationship may end because I can’t seem to connect with her the way I used to. Should I speak to a therapist?
You assume your wife is the same person she used to be in college. The implication is that you haven’t changed in all these years either. To try and hold on to the image of someone for years is to set oneself up for disappointment. Speaking to a therapist can help, of course, but I suggest you try and think about why you both decided to marry, and what your expectations were. Ask her if she married you for the same reasons, and if she thinks of you as the same person you were when you first dated. People change, and the nicest thing about being in a committed relationship is the ability it gives you both to change and evolve together. This can be an advantage or a handicap, depending upon how you choose to look at it. If the two of you made a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, it’s because you both saw something in the other person worth holding on to. Try and figure out what that is.

My friend and I recently stopped speaking because of something his girlfriend said about me. Am I being childish about this?
Why not try asking your friend that question instead?