Is being too tall or short a problem? Experts weigh in

Jennifer Lawrence and Jodie FosterWhen Academy Awardwinning actor Jodie Foster hurt herself in a skiing incident earlier this year little did she know that she would soon turn into an Internet meme The 55yearold walked in to present an award at the 90th edition of the Oscars this year with the help of crutches And she had a pair of black moccasins on Her companion the 5foot9inch tall Jennifer Lawrence towered beside her on heels Beside Lawrence Fosters 5foot3inch frame looked tinyShrimoyee Chakraborty with her partner Bruno RuisWhat next The everwaiting Twitterati pounced on the duo and trolled them like never before And on the surface the trolls were funny Is Jodie foster really short or is Jennifer Lawrence really tall or Today I learned that Jodie Foster is three feet tall and Jennifer Lawrence is eight feet tall or I assume Jodie Foster and Jennifer Lawrence are in rehearsals for an allfemale reboot of The Lord of the Rings But on second thoughts isnt this just another form of bodyshaming Read onShort stuffAt 28 Shrimoyee Chakraborty is the founder of Calcutta Street a chain of restaurants in the UK I am 5 feet 2 inches which is very short but in India I never felt that anything was wrong It became more of an insecurity issue when I came to England as a 20yearold Stephanie my best friend then was 5 feet 9 inches When we went clubbing everybody wore heels and I wasnt comfortable wearing thin stilettos So I would wear normal block heels and you could imagine the height difference Its exactly what you saw between Lawrence and Foster And thats exactly how we would look too Taking a photo used to get so uncomfortable that we would finally sit down to take a proper click A few days ago I went to this award ceremony and I went directly from work So I didnt have the time to change and wear heels At the venue there was this property agent who wasnt that tall herself but the first thing she told me was Oh my god arent you tiny That hurt While Chakraborty has learnt to be above these things she feels that it can lead to insecurity at an impressionable age In fact I started wearing heels In London everyone uses public transport So imagine having to walk the entire day on heels It affects your whole body Only last year I decided to accept myself for who I amSelfHeight differencesJournalists Arpita Banerji and Shilarze Saha Roy have built a happy home together in Chennai something society would completely approve of What people might raise an eyebrow to is the slight difference in their heights which is to say that at 5 feet 7 inches Banerji is a tad taller than her husbandArpita Banerji with husband Shilarze Saha RoyHeight was never on our minds when we fell in love she says For Roy the difference comes up during fights but then too simply to lighten the mood At times I do keep telling her not to look down on me Most of my folks are short in height So they were dazed when they saw my stunning wife I do remember my mother telling me once that Arpita will set a tall order for you to match and we both had a hearty laugh he saysSoumyasree Mukherjee extreme right towers over his palsTall orderSoumyasree Mukherjee an IT professional in Kolkata never had to face any problem At 6 feet 3 inches he is often compared to Amitabh Bachchan I am single but my height has never been the reason behind it except once when the mother of a girl I liked rejected me the 26yearold saysSoumya Chowdhury centre stands tallThe story is similar for Soumya Chowdhury a senior consultant with a firm in Dubai At 6 feet 2 inches the only problem he faced was when he was working in Jamshedpur I remember this day when I was late for work As I ran behind the bus the only thing on my mind was being able to board it Little did I know that a protruding tree branch would hit me and send me straight to a clinic with a bleeding forehead he laughsAmeeta Sanghavi Shah counsellor and Farzana Suri victory coachFrom the expertsMantra No 1 See the lighter sideWhen ones height is not in the average range it causes a loss of selfesteem or selfconsciousshyness When a couples height difference is not as per societal standards then it does create stress It can sabotage a relatishyonship if one hasnt come to terms with it Focushyssshying your energy on strenshygshythening yourself is the key Instead of accepting and coping with these problshyems one tends to get streshysshysed about the issue creashyting anxiety and obsesshysshyivecompulsive patterns One should learn to see the humshyour in it says Ameeta Sashynshyghavi Shah counsellorMantra No 2 Knowledge makes a differenceAs a short person myself it took a lot to get noticed and ackshynowledged for my work simply out of fear that I woulshydnt be taken serishyously As a victory coach when clients spoke to me over the phone they seeshymshyed convinced of my capabishylities But when theyd meet me theyd ask How experienced are you However once we got down to business things changed But its knowledge with compeshytence that makes a difference explains Farzana Suri victory coachCatch up on all the latest Mumbai news crime news current affairs and also a complete guide on Mumbai from food to things to do and events across the city here Also download the new midday Android and iOS apps to get latest updates