Dear Diana,
I will turn 34 in February and my husband feels that I should have a child before the age of 35. I really don’t want a child right now as it will mean I take a break from my job. I am an air-hostess. I am well-settled in my job and want to wait for at least another two years. I have just been given a senior position so want to enjoy this phase of my professional life. I am fit and look much younger than my age. My husband feels once I cross 35 there could be complications and wants to start trying for a baby now. I can’t seem to articulate why I don’t want a child now. We are stable and have been together for seven years. I understand it might take a while to conceive, but we’re both fit and healthy so hopefully things will be okay. How can I put it into words so he can see my perspective?
— Sarah

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