Traditionally seen as a condition affecting women, varicose veins are now increasingly being diagnosed in men aged 25-45. Various lifestyle factors such as prolonged standing or sitting, lack of physical activity, obesity, and even genetics are contributing to the growing number of male patients. Just like in women, timely management in men is important to prevent complications like leg ulcers, blood clots. Early symptoms such as leg heaviness, visible veins, and night cramps are often ignored, delaying treatment and worsening the condition. Dr Javed Sikandar, consultant radiologist and varicose vein expert, Apollo Spectra Hospital in Chembur shedding light on the condition says varicose veins occur when the valves in the veins, usually in the legs, are unable to function properly, leading to poor blood circulation and pooling of blood. This results in veins becoming enlarged, twisted, and visibly swollen. He explains, “Though women still represent the majority of cases, currently, even men are suffering from it and having difficulty in navigating their daily life. In men, common causes include prolonged standing (especially in jobs like teaching, security, or retail), obesity, sedentary lifestyle, and lifting heavy weights. A family history of vein disorders also raises the risk. Symptoms can range from aching pain, throbbing, muscle cramps, and swelling to visible blue or purple veins under the skin. In a month, approximately 3 in 10 men aged 25-45 come with symptoms such as pain, swollen and twisted veins due to varicose veins. 1 out of 3 people are recommended for the Endovenous Laser Therapy (EVLT) or sclerotherapy. Remember, timely intervention can help one to move freely and manage this problem especially at a time when there is a 30 per cent surge in varicose vein cases in men.” Dr Ashank Bansal, vascular surgeon & interventional radiologist, Zynova Shalby Hospital in Ghatkopar adds, “Many men tend to dismiss the early signs of varicose veins as temporary fatigue or muscle strain. However, untreated varicose veins can lead to serious complications, including skin discoloration, leg ulcers, and even deep vein thrombosis (DVT) in rare cases. The risk factors include obesity, prolonged standing or sitting, smoking, and a lack of physical exercise. In a month, approximately 2 in 10 men aged 25-45 visit with symptoms such as muscle cramps, pain, fullness, and heaviness in legs, swollen and twisted veins that can indicate varicose veins." Bansal says there is a 20 per cent spike in varicose vein cases in men and usually in moderate to severe cases, minimally invasive procedures such as EVLT or sclerotherapy offer effective treatment but timely consultation with a vascular specialist can help avoid discomfort and long-term damage. “Preventive measures include regular movement, leg elevation during rest, avoiding tight clothing, and wearing compression stockings can help. Maintaining a healthy weight and staying active reduces pressure on the veins. Men must start taking leg health seriously, it’s not just a cosmetic issue but a vascular condition that needs timely care," concludes Dr Sikandar.
19 June,2025 11:02 AM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondentWhile social isolation has long been known a risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease, a new study showed that being more sociable can be an early sign of the neurodegenerative disease. The study examined the social habits and genetic data of half a million British people whose average age was 56. Researchers from the University of California San Francisco and Boston University found that Alzheimer’s may make people more sociable rather than less -- at least in the early stages. The study shows that at its earliest stage Alzheimer’s doesn’t make people less socially engaged. “Their social lives may even expand,” said co-senior author Ashwin Kotwal, from USCF. “We don’t know for sure if they are engaging more with others, or if those around them are noticing subtle changes and giving them more support," he added. The data from UK Biobank showed that people with a higher genetic risk for Alzheimer’s reported less isolation, participation in a wider range of social activities and happier family relationships. No differences were found between higher-risk and lower-risk individuals in measuring loneliness, friendship quality and emotional support. Social connectedness is believed to delay or reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s by promoting cognitive reserve, the brain’s ability to maintain normal function despite aging or dementia. The research showed that other non-genetic factors influencing Alzheimer’s are physical inactivity, uncontrolled diabetes and high blood pressure, poor sleep, depression, current smoking and certain medications. Experts believe that 30 per cent of Alzheimer’s may be attributed to these modifiable risks. Another research earlier this month found that mood disorders like depression, bipolar disorder, or mania after the age of 40 may not be just mental health conditions but can precede motor or cognitive symptoms in various neurodegenerative diseases. Growing evidence suggests these late-life mood disorders (LLMDs) could be early warning signs of neurodegenerative diseases like dementia, even when they appear years before memory loss or other cognitive symptoms become apparent, said researchers from the National Institutes for Quantum Science and Technology (QST), Japan. The study, published in Alzheimer's & Dementia: The Journal of the Alzheimer's Association explored the presence of abnormal tau protein -- a hallmark of several neurodegenerative diseases -- in the brains of 52 participants with LLMDs and 47 healthy controls. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever
18 June,2025 04:14 PM IST | Mumbai | IANSAn ultrasound of one's thigh or shoulder muscle could help detect insulin resistance, a stage that often precedes prediabetes, a study suggests. Ultrasounds of muscles of 25 patients -- who were also checked for insulin resistance -- showed that their muscles appear "unusually bright", lead author Steven Soliman, director of musculoskeletal radiology fellowship at the University of Michigan, US, said. "We found it interesting that most of these patients (with bright ultrasound images) have type 2 diabetes. Seeing this pattern, we often thought, 'This patient must have diabetes'," Soliman said. "More importantly, many were unaware of their condition until we verified with their electronic records and confirmed with their bloodwork that they indeed had type 2 diabetes or prediabetes," the lead author added. For this study, published in the Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine, the team analysed 300 images of the participants' ultrasound and found an increased brightness or 'muscle echo intensity', which suggests that the quality of muscle has changed due to increased fat. Eight participants had insulin resistance, and seven had "impaired insulin sensitivity". Initial findings from a muscle biopsy also suggested that the bright ultrasound images may indicate an excess accumulation of fat and possibly fibrosis, potentially affecting muscle health and function, the researchers said. The study, therefore, highlights the potential of an ultrasound of muscles -- a non-invasive procedure -- in predicting the development of prediabetes or diabetes earlier than current diagnostic methods, they added. The team had previously demonstrated that a higher muscle echo intensity could help accurately detect prediabetes and type 2 diabetes, regardless of age and duration of disease. An elevated muscle echo intensity was seen in patients not diagnosed with prediabetes or diabetes. Some of them showed an increased muscle echo intensity before their blood test revealed a higher HbA1c -- a measure of average blood sugar levels over the last two to three months, the researchers said. The team added that while the ultrasounds could detect insulin resistance and impaired insulin sensitivity, muscle echo intensity (or brightness of ultrasound images) was not linked with M values -- insulin sensitivity measured using a clamp test, which assesses how well the body uses glucose and is sensitive to insulin. The result suggested that bright ultrasound images can hint at -- but not measure -- insulin resistance, the researchers said and added that they were recruiting more participants to understand this aspect better. "Muscle US (ultrasound) has the potential to be a simple, accurate, noninvasive, inexpensive, and radiation-free tool for detecting developing insulin resistance and lower muscle mass in at-risk individuals," the authors wrote. Having a high muscle strength has been linked with a 44 per cent reduced chance of developing diabetes, according to a study by the University of Hong Kong, published in the journal BioMed Central (BMC) Medicine in April. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever
18 June,2025 03:21 PM IST | Mumbai | PTIDrinking a cup or two of black coffee daily could lower risk of death by 14 per cent, but adding milk or sugar could diminish the benefits, according to a new study. The same link was not observed for coffee with high amounts of added sugar and saturated fat, researchers said. "The health benefits of coffee might be attributable to its bioactive compounds, but our results suggest that the addition of sugar and saturated fat may reduce the mortality benefits," Fang Fang Zhang, from Tufts University in the US, and senior author of the study published in The Journal of Nutrition, said. Data nine consecutive cycles of the US' National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES) from 1999 to 2018, linked to national death data, was analysed. Responses of more than 46,000 adults aged 20 years and above who completed first-day 24-hour dietary questionnaires were looked at. Coffee consumption was categorised by type -- caffeinated or decaffeinated -- sugar, and saturated fat content, and outcomes of death studied included those from any cause, cancer, and cardiovascular disease. "Few studies have examined how coffee additives could impact the link between coffee consumption and mortality risk, and our study is among the first to quantify how much sweetener and saturated fat are being added," first author Bingjie Zhou, a PhD graduate from Tufts University, said. The authors wrote, "Consuming black coffee and coffee with low levels of added sugar and saturated fat was associated with a 14 per cent lower risk of all-cause mortality, compared with no coffee consumption." Consuming two to three cups a day could lower the risk of death due to any cause by 17 per cent, whereas taking more than three cups daily was not associated with additional reductions, the researchers said. Further, the link between coffee and a lower risk of death by cardiovascular disease weakened when more than three cups of coffee were taken a day, they added. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever
17 June,2025 06:08 PM IST | Mumbai | PTIInternational Yoga Day, also called International Day of Yoga or World Yoga Day, is an annual global observance centred on raising awareness about the benefits of yoga for holistic health and well-being. The day not only encourages people to realise this ancient practice’s wellness and spiritual potential but also to adopt it in their everyday lives. International Yoga Day 2025: Date and theme International Yoga Day is celebrated annually on June 21. Every year, the observance has a special theme. For International Yoga Day 2025, the theme is ‘Yoga for One Earth, One Health’. According to the United Nations website, the theme echoes a vital truth that personal wellness and planetary health are intricately linked. The theme for International Yoga Day 2024 was ‘Yoga for Self and Society’ and in 2023, the observance was centred on the theme ‘Yoga for Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam’. International Yoga Day: History and significance Yoga, an ancient Indian practice that focuses on physical, mental and spiritual well-being, has been adopted in various forms around the world as a holistic health discipline. International Yoga Day celebrates this practice while also amplifying its reach. The United Nations proclaimed June 21 as International Yoga Day on December 11, 2014. The proposal to establish this special day was first introduced by Prime Minister Narendra Modi during the 69th session of the General Assembly. He highlighted yoga’s power to unite the mind and body, and its role in ensuring holistic well-being. The proposal was endorsed by 175 member states. International Yoga Day has been celebrated around the world since 2015, and 2025 marks its 11th year. International Yoga Day: Celebrations around the world The day brings people together to celebrate this ancient Indian practice and promote a healthy lifestyle. Besides talks focusing on the importance of yoga, several workshops, sessions and yoga camps are also held on this day. Schools, colleges and offices all organise Yoga Day activities, drawing attentions towards students’ and employees’ well-being. The events and activities around the world on this day reflect yoga’s universal appeal and adoption.
16 June,2025 08:18 PM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondentThe last few weeks have been quite disturbing for people as they witness tragic events around the country. It may be worse for those looking forward to some news that gives hope during this time. While one is about a 60-something woman getting life-saving surgery, the other involves an older woman getting operated for a serious heart disease. Elderly woman gets new lease of life after falling from a horse during her Kedarnath pilgrimageA 62-year-old woman who went for pilgrimage to the holy shrine of Kedarnath met with an accident while on horseback to the temple. The woman fell down sustaining multiple traumatic injuries with T12 compression fracture to the spinal column, left sided multiple ribs, left scapula and hemothorax (chest cavity bleeding). Even though she experienced acute pain, she didn’t have the choice of instant air evacuation. Rather, she suffered an arduous, multi-day journey, starting with a long and treacherous road travel to Dehradun and then a transfer to a series of connecting flights through Dehradun and Jaipur to Mumbai before finally being shifted to KIMS Hospitals, Thane three days after the incident. On reaching the hospital, she was evaluated by Dr. Amogh Zawar, Consultant Spine Surgeon and was found to be short of breath with oxygen saturation in the 80s. In addition to having intense back pain, bi-lateral leg weakness, and urinary incontinence, she had symptoms of progressive spinal cord compression. Scans showed the fracture at T12 had already started to compress the spinal cord and cause neurologic deterioration. Transfers and multiple handlings compounded the issue further. Dr. Zawar said, "In such cases, it is crucial to ensure safe transfer to a definitive care to avoid further damage and permanent neurological complications. Early intervention is important as surgery for spinal injuries performed within 48-72 hours has been shown to reduce the risk of irreversible damage. Contemporary minimally invasive surgical techniques minimize collateral muscle damage and blood loss, improve post operative pain management and recovery time. A multidisciplinary team-based approach to patient care, as followed at KIMS Hospitals, Thane, plays a vital role in the successful execution of complex surgeries. Equally crucial is comprehensive rehabilitation, which ensures optimal recovery and outcomes in these highly challenging clinical situations." The team decided to operate on her with a Minimally Invasive Spinal Fixation and Indirect Decompression. The technique included Bio-Compatible screw insertion between T10 and L2 spinal levels and Vertebroplasty at T12 with bone cement as stabilization. A technique known as Rod Contouring along with indirect reduction was done to decompress the spinal cord without opening her spine and risking trauma. In elderly patients and with comorbidities, its effectiveness is especially high, as it allows for less blood loss and faster recovery time with minimal skin incisions. The patient had an excellent recovery following the surgery. She was mobilized within 24 hours, while her lower extremity strength improved over time, as did her bladder control. She spent a day in the ICU and three days in the ward before being discharged in a stable condition. Now she is able to walk without pain, independently. Describing her journey, the patient said, "While on a pilgrimage to Kedarnath, I met with an accident after falling from a horse. It took several days to reach the hospital. I got admitted to KIMS Hospitals Thane. I had multiple fractures, especially on the left side—affecting my shoulder, rib cage, and leg. Dr. Amogh performed the spine surgery, and thanks to his expertise, my recovery began quickly. Within a few days, I was able to stand and walk across the entire floor. The doctors, medical staff, and the overall hospital facilities have been exceptional. I’m truly grateful to the entire team for their care and support." Mumbai doctors save life of 78-year-old woman with serious heart diseaseLilavati Hospital have successfully saved the life of a 78-year-old woman suffering from a serious heart condition known as Mitral Annular Calcification. The patient received a new lease on life through a Transcatheter Transatrial Mitral Valve Replacement (TMVR) surgery. This procedure, performed at Lilavati Hospital in Mumbai, marks India’s first successful transatrial TMVR surgery. The surgery was conducted by a team of specialists led by Dr. Ravinder Singh Rao, Interventional Structural Cardiologist, Dr. Kaushal Pandey, Cardiac Surgeon, and Dr. Uday Gandhi, Cardiac Anaesthesist. Sujata Sakpal (Name changed), had been suffering from severe breathlessness for months. She couldn’t sleep lying down and experienced discomfort while eating, walking, or even bathing. Despite undergoing treatment from several doctors, there was no improvement. Realizing the seriousness of her condition, the family admitted her to Lilavati Hospital. Medical tests revealed that her mitral valve was damaged and heavily calcified. Considering her age, the condition of her lungs, and the extensive calcification in her heart, a traditional surgery was deemed extremely risky. Many other hospitals had declined to perform the procedure. However, doctors at Lilavati Hospital took up the challenge and opted for the advanced TMVR procedure. Dr. Ravinder Singh Rao, Interventional Structural Cardiologist, at the hospital said, “Given her age and frail condition, traditional surgery was not an option. So, we chose the Transcatheter Transatrial Mitral Valve Replacement technique. We used an Edwards Sapien 3 valve for the replacement. A small incision was made in the heart to remove the damaged valve and implant the new one. The entire procedure was completed in a very short time. The patient was kept in the ICU for just one day and discharged within four days as her condition improved. Three months later, she is now able to walk again, sleeps well, and lives independently without any breathing issues.” “This procedure offers a ray of hope to patients for whom traditional treatment is not possible,” Concluded Dr. Rao. Dr. Niraj Uttamani, COO of Lilavati Hospital Mumbai Said, “This surgery is not just a medical achievement but a landmark for India and the entire Asian continent. It reflects Lilavati’s commitment to medical excellence and brings new hope to patients suffering from critical illnesses.” Sharing her feelings, Sujata said, “I had breathing problems for many years. I couldn’t sleep or even eat properly. Other doctors had refused surgery, and I was scared. But the doctors at Lilavati Hospital treated me in time and gave me a second chance at life. I’m deeply grateful to them.”
16 June,2025 05:11 PM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondentWith the arrival of the monsoon season comes a respite from heat, but not without an increased risk of some infections. While a surge in vector-borne diseases like dengue, malaria and chikungunya is common during this time of the year, leptospirosis also poses health risks, especially during the rainy season, and shouldn’t be ignored, according to health experts. After Kerala, the monsoon also arrived in Maharashtra earlier than usual this year. According to an update by the India Meteorological Department (IMD), the southwest monsoon is expected to cover most parts of northwest India, including Delhi, by June 25, well ahead of the usual dates. As monsoon showers continue, it is important to watch out for specific signs and symptoms of diseases like leptospirosis. Causes and symptoms Dr Urvi Maheshwari, Internal Medicine Expert at Zynova Shalby Hospital in Mumbai explains, “Leptospirosis is caused by the Leptospira bacteria that are generally present in water contaminated by animal urine. The infection spreads through cuts on the skin or mucous membranes when a person comes in contact with infected water, mainly during the monsoon season.” People, she says, are most at risk of contracting the disease during monsoon if they come in contact with contaminated flood water or stagnant water. Walking barefoot or with open wounds in such water makes it easier for the bacteria to enter the body. Additionally, it is best to also avoid recreational activities like swimming in lakes or ponds, and stay away from infected animals, agriculture and gardening activities, and food that may be contaminated with rodent urine. Highlighting symptoms of this infection, Dr Anita Mathew, Director - Internal Medicine & Infectious Diseases Specialist at Fortis Hospital in Mulund, says, “People should watch out for leptospirosis symptoms, which include high-grade fever, severe body aches, poor appetite, yellowing of eyes, and a drop in urine output.” She also warns that certain groups may be more at risk of infection. “Certain subsets of the population like sewage workers, veterinarians, butchers, gardeners and people who swim in open water bodies like ponds and lakes are at high risk of contracting leptospirosis,” Dr Mathew informs. “Farmers, sanitation staff, pet handlers, and those living in flood-prone areas may be more at risk. Children and individuals with weak immunity are also more vulnerable to the infection,” Dr Maheshwari adds. Can leptospirosis be life-threatening? Leptospirosis can present mild as well as severe symptoms. If not diagnosed and treated early, it may prove to be deadly, according to Dr Maheshwari. “In severe cases, it can lead to kidney failure, liver damage, internal bleeding, or meningitis,” she informs. Dr Mathew further says that the most critical form of leptospirosis, called Weil’s disease, can be fatal as it can cause multiple organ failure besides bleeding tendency. Given the potential severity of the disease, it is crucial to consult a doctor immediately if symptoms are observed to ensure timely medical intervention. Prevention tips Besides avoiding contact with contaminated fluids like sewage water or dirty rainwater, Dr Mathew shares the following tips to prevent leptospirosis: 1. Wash your feet immediately with anti-bacterial soap if you come in contact with dirty water. If you have open wounds on your limbs, avoid contact with dirty water altogether. 2. Sewage workers should be provided with thick rubber gloves and boots, so they do not come in contact with contaminated water. 3. Avoid swimming in potentially contaminated lakes, ponds, or rivers. 4. Practice good hand hygiene. Disclaimer: This is for informational purposes only and does not replace professional medical advice. Kindly consult a qualified medical expert for personalised guidance.
16 June,2025 03:36 PM IST | Mumbai | Raaina JainWomen who work nightshifts are more likely to suffer from moderate or severe asthma compared to women who work in the daytime, according to a study of more than 270,000 people. However, the study, published in ERJ Open Research, found no such link between asthma and working nightshifts in men. The risk of asthma in men did not alter according to whether they worked days or nights. Women who only work nightshifts were around 50 per cent more likely to suffer from moderate or severe asthma compared to women who only work in the daytime. "Asthma disproportionately affects women. Women generally have more severe asthma, and a higher rate of hospitalisation and death from asthma compared to men,” said Dr. Robert Maidstone from the University of Manchester, UK. "This is the first study to evaluate sex differences in the relationship between shift work and asthma. We found that permanent nightshift workers had higher odds of moderate-severe asthma when compared to corresponding day workers,” he added. The study builds on previous research which found a higher risk of moderate or severe asthma in nightshift workers. To probe further, the team included a total of 274,541 working people and found that 5.3 per cent of those had asthma, with 1.9 per cent suffering from moderate or severe asthma (meaning they were taking an asthma-preventer inhaler and at least one other asthma treatment, such as an oral steroid). Overall, the research found that women who work shifts are more likely to have asthma. While the research did not explain the link between shift work and asthma, the researchers said, “it could be because shift work disrupts the body clock, including the levels of male and female sex hormones”. High testosterone has previously been shown to be protective against asthma, so lower testosterone in women could play a role. Alternatively, men and women work different types of shift jobs, and this could be a factor, the researchers said. In postmenopausal women, the risk of moderate or severe asthma was almost doubled in night workers, compared to day workers, in those not taking hormone replacement therapy (HRT). "Our results suggest that HRT might be protective against asthma for nightshift workers, however further research is needed to test this hypothesis in prospective studies and randomised controlled trials," Maidstone said. The researchers next plan to study whether sex hormones play a role in the relationship between shift work and asthma. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever
16 June,2025 03:01 PM IST | Mumbai | IANSAlcohol-related liver disease deaths are increasing rapidly among women and young adults, according to new research. Researchers from the Universities Havard, Stanford, and Southern California (USC) attributed the rise to higher drinking during the Covid-19 pandemic, as well as to increasing health problems like obesity and high blood pressure. "The pandemic itself came under control, but the disparities that came with it continued and lingered," said Dr. Nasim Maleki, a psychiatry professor at Harvard Medical School. The findings, published in JAMA Network Open, based on death certificates from across the US showed that between 2018 and 2022, deaths from alcohol-associated liver disease (ALD) rose nearly 9 per cent a year. Between 2006 and 2018, ALD deaths stood at 3.5 per cent per year. While men still had the highest number of deaths -- 17 per 100,000 people -- women's death rates grew faster. In 2022, eight of every 100,000 women died from ALD, up from three per 100,000 over the study period. Women's death rates rose by about 4.3 per cent each year, nearly twice the rate of men. One reason women may be affected more is because of how the body processes alcohol. Biologically, women are less able to break down alcohol than men. That means even a little drinking can have a bigger impact on their organs over time, the researchers explained. Further, young adults between ages 25 and 44 were found to have the biggest yearly increase in deaths from alcohol-associated hepatitis between 1999 and 2022. "Alcohol-related cirrhosis takes time to develop. So we may not see the true extent of the consequences until five, probably 10, years from now, which is very concerning," said Dr. Robert Wong, a liver specialist at Stanford University. Recent research showed a spike in the number of annual alcohol deaths due to cancer. Data presented at the American Society of Clinical Oncology 2025 conference revealed that alcohol-related cancer deaths doubled -- to 23,207 by 2021 from 11,896 in 1990. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever.
15 June,2025 03:44 PM IST | New Delhi | IANSIncreasing emotional dysfunctions and poor coping skills may be behind the rising trend in cases of women committing or fostering the murder of their husbands, said mental health experts. There is a rise in cases of intimate partner violence, especially those involving the female partner. From a planned honeymoon killing in Meghalaya to a dismembered body found sealed in a cement drum in Meerut, the wave of husband murders has sparked a fierce debate on the mental status of the women committing these ghastly murders. “These crimes are not to be viewed as aggressor being men or women rather these are to be viewed as human tragedies resulting from emotional dysfunctions, unhealthy coping skills and impaired cognitions and judgement,” Dr Shiv Prasad, professor, and head, Dept of Psychiatry at Lady Hardinge Medical College in New Delhi. From Bengaluru techie Atul Subhash committing suicide last December and blaming his wife in a 1.5-hour-long video posted online to the recent case of Raja Raghuvanshi, who was murdered by his wife during their honeymoon trip in Meghalaya -- the cases have attracted huge public attention. These have also triggered misogynistic backlash and are posing a threat to the idea of gender equality. “It becomes important to address here that these events are not acts by empowered women but by a woman suffering from immense psychological dysfunction. These two concepts can't be compared, and narrating empowered women as dangerous and emotionally unstable on one end jeopardises the long fight of gender equality, but on the other hand, it ignores the real underlying cause -- psychological dysfunctions,” the psychiatrist said. He added that these cases reflect the social and psychological shift with women being exposed to various economic, social, emotional, and even existential stressors. There is often a tug-of-war between partners for competence and power. “These adverse events of violence result when personal vulnerabilities in the form of unresolved/untreated past trauma, personality traits like fear of abandonment, emotional dysregulation, reduced emotional tolerance, unrealistic expectations collide with factors like the feeling of betrayal or rejection, overwhelming family dynamics/responsibilities and perception of not living the ideal hypothesised life,” Prasad said. With the changing landscape of the country, the concept of relationships is also changing, said experts. “From joint family to nuclear family system, the thought process is also changing from we to me, which means initially we used to think about we, that is the society as large, but now it's about me, that is I, me, and myself. So, there is a sense of selfishness and entitlement that I should get whatever I need,” Dr Rajiv Mehta, vice chairperson of Psychiatry, from a leading hospital in the national capital, said. He noted that the patience level of couples is decreasing, and added to that is a strong belief that we are clever enough and we are powerful enough that we can evade the law. The experts noted that the crimes also highlight the fragility of modern relationships, which are over-influenced by digital glamourisation, look hyperconnected but deep down lack emotional connectivity, and are based on unrealistic expectations that usually don't fit in the deep-rooted cultural and family dynamics, leading to instability in relationships. “Nowadays, relationships are based on individualism rather than interdependence, reflections of a deficit in understanding the basic concept that relationship/marriage doesn't just work with partners being the only role players rather it demands fitting in the complex family dynamics,” Prasad said. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever.
15 June,2025 02:54 PM IST | New Delhi | IANSFor many, Father's Day isn't a celebration, but a stark reminder of unresolved pain. Not all challenging father-child relationships can be repaired or forgiven. However, practical mental health strategies for individuals seeking peace when reconciliation isn't possible or desirable can help. Every year Father's Day is observed on the third Sunday of June, and this year it is being celebrated on June 15. While dealing with the relationship, the focus is on setting boundaries, managing expectations, practicing self-compassion, and finding alternative support systems that don't hinge on a conventional relationship with one's father. Self-compassion and grieving the wished-for relationshipDr. Pallavi Joshi, consultant psychiatrist at Manipal Hospital, Varthur Road, highlights the societal pressure in India to forgive and forget. She says, "Parents are often placed on a pedestal, we sometimes forget that they, too, are human and can make mistakes. Many adults carry the emotional weight of childhood experiences, especially being scolded or labelled not good enough." This repeated criticism can deeply affect self-esteem, leading individuals to believe they are inherently flawed. Joshi recommends self-parenting for those who feel unloved or experienced emotional neglect. "Just as you would comfort a toddler by gently placing a hand on their chest and saying, 'It’s okay, you’re safe,' you should offer yourself the same reassurance. In moments of emotional distress or when you feel unloved or unsettled, respond to yourself with kindness and care. This simple act of self-soothing can help heal old wounds and build a sense of inner security and self-compassion." She also shares a quote by Oscar Wilde, “Children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they judge them; sometimes they forgive them.” Joshi notes, "This reflects how we evolve—from idolising parents to seeing their flaws. Forgiveness, especially after emotional neglect, can be the hardest but most healing step." Additionally, she suggests thought-stopping techniques like the rubber band method, where snapping it gently to interrupt thought loops. Processing emotional pain when reconciliation isn't an option"When reconciliation or forgiveness isn’t a viable path, one effective strategy is simply to say goodbye — not out of bitterness, but as a way of honouring the grief that comes with unresolved relationships," says Deepti Chandy, therapist and COO at Anna Chandy & Associates. Chandy suggests moving through the grief cycle, acknowledging the pain, and allowing oneself to fully feel it. “A therapeutic technique that can assist is two-chair work, where you speak to the absent person as if they were present, expressing what you need to say to find closure. Ask yourself: What does an ending or closure look like for me and what small ritual or reflection could help me move forward?" she advises. Building a robust support system that may not include parents, such as close friends, is also incredibly important. Chandy states, "Particularly during emotionally charged times, it can be very beneficial to surround yourself with people who make you feel safe and emotionally supported. Giving yourself permission to process these feelings in therapy in any way that suits you. Complex emotions related to a father's absence or estrangement can frequently be evoked by holidays, memories, and specific life events." Establishing healthy boundaries without expecting a 'fix'To establish and maintain healthy boundaries with a father who is still present, Chandy advises, "Start by asking yourself what healthy boundaries look like for you. What helps you feel protected - your mental and emotional wellbeing?" She recommends defining these boundaries clearly and communicating them calmly but firmly. "Be realistic if the person has shown you that change isn’t likely, it’s essential to adjust your expectations accordingly. The key is to stop expecting a miracle and start creating space for yourself," she explains. Chandy concludes with a powerful metaphor: "Remember: boundaries aren’t walls they’re gates. You decide when to open them and when to keep them closed, based on what your emotional landscape needs." Grieving the loss of a wished-for father-child relationshipOn the other hand, Joshi asserts, "It is real to grieve such a loss." She outlines the stages of grief: "Denial, rage, bargaining (imagining 'what if he had behaved differently'), despair, and acceptance. Acceptance is essential, even if your father is still living." Among the healthier ways to grieve, Joshi lists:1. Composing letters to your younger self explaining your feelings and what you saw.2. The mirror approach, which involves saying 'I love you' while standing in front of a mirror. I embrace you for who you are. There's a child within seeking approval.3. Expressing unfulfilled needs through the writing of completion letters. Sometimes achieving closure or calming anger is more important than forgiveness.4. Recognising your unfulfilled need: were you seeking security, approval, or love? She also advises acknowledging any good your father may have done, despite imperfections. Citing the Upanishads (prati-prashna paddhati), she suggests, "When you are furious with someone, try to think about at least two or three positive things they have done. It lessens the intensity of emotions." Managing expectations around family-centric holidays"Father’s Day and other family-centric holidays can bring up complicated feelings, especially when your relationship with your father is strained, absent, or painful," acknowledges Chandy. She suggests making alternate arrangements, such as a day out with friends, a solo trip, or simply doing something that feels good or grounding. Don’t let yourself fall into isolation. Having a plan, she notes, "Can ease the sense of emptiness and help avoid emotional spirals.” Chandy also reminds us, "Media and marketing often idealise family relationships. What you see online - perfectly curated family brunches and heartfelt captions - doesn’t reflect the full picture. For many people, these holidays are hard. You are not alone, and your experience is valid." She encourages individuals, “Give yourself permission to redefine what these days mean to you. Maybe it’s not about celebrating your father maybe it’s about celebrating your resilience in the absence of that connection." Building alternative support systems"We often remark that you can find relatives in the most unlikely places. Your biological family is not the only source of your support. Building support and services should be a priority, particularly for people who don't feel a strong emotional bond with their parents," says Joshi. She reiterates, "We are gregarious creatures. Speaking with the appropriate person—not just anybody—is what counts. Locate a supportive vent partner who will listen to you without passing judgement. There are often one or two of these individuals in every stage of life." She also highlights, “Not everyone must satisfy every emotional demand. There are several types of friends you can have, including serious friends, coffee buddies, chai buddies, and people who support you no matter what. They are all significant in their own unique ways." Furthermore, Joshi suggests, "Seek out those who are hurt if you wish to alleviate your own suffering. Visit hospices, assisted living facilities, or orphanages. Your own emotional wounds can be healed by helping others. After my father passed away, I personally found comfort in often visiting hospices." Effective therapeutic approachesWhen reconciliation isn't the goal, various therapeutic approaches can be beneficial, according to Joshi. She notes:1. Psychoanalytical treatment is frequently used to treat childhood trauma or abuse.2. Positive psychotherapy is an effective treatment for low self-esteem or poor self-worth.3. Interpersonal psychotherapy is helpful when dealing with problems involving two or more persons.4. If other people (such as parents or siblings) are interested and involved, we may employ family therapy.5. Depending on the demands of the client, the majority of us employ eclectic treatment, which combines elements of several systems. Joshi concludes, "However, satisfying unfulfilled emotional needs is always the aim. It's not always necessary to involve the person who wounded you in therapy. Rather, it focuses on understanding what you're truly looking for and mending your internal traumas." This Father's Day, remember that finding peace is possible, even when traditional reconciliation isn't an option. By embracing self-compassion, setting boundaries, managing expectations, and cultivating alternative support systems, you can navigate these complex emotions and move towards a place of healing and personal well-being.
15 June,2025 02:25 PM IST | Mumbai | Maitrai AgarwalADVERTISEMENT
