Dear Diana,
I'm a 21-year-old guy who is attracted to boys and girls. I had a girlfriend for a while, but when she realised that I was attracted to guys as well, she found it strange and drifted away. Can a guy be attracted to men and women? Presently I am attracted to this guy at the gym and fantasise about him. How do I decide who I am attracted to more? My pals tell me I am a bisexual.
— Tarun


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Tarun,
Your pals are right. From what you have said, it appears that you are a bisexual. The term bisexuality is used in the context of human attraction to denote romantic or sexual feelings towards men and women. There are many people out there who are bisexual. Most bisexuals when they are interested in someone, they focus on the person, not their gender. The level of emotion and attraction bisexuals feel for a certain gender varies person to person. It is commonly believed that people are heterosexual or homosexual, but there is a wide spectrum of feelings and identities people experience which are not just straight or gay. Bisexuality is an option in its own right.