Dear Diana,
I have this fantasy that the woman I marry should take complete control when it comes to the bedroom. I want her to dominate me and take charge. I cannot imagine achieving sexual gratification otherwise. I am 29 and single. I guess it will be difficult for me to fulfil this fantasy. What do I do?
— Areesh


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Areesh,
You may harbour fantasies, but first you need to find a life partner. You are 29 and single. So instead of living in your dream world and thinking about your fantasies, find a woman to love. Whether you opt for an arranged marriage or a love match, it is up to you how you want to behave in the bedroom. That is between you and the woman you love. So instead of just dreaming about your fantasies, set forth first in finding a lady of your dreams.