Dear Diana,
My 26-year-old daughter got engaged recently. Four days later, she began to have doubts. She was in a long-term relationship with a guy who dumped her. After much heartache, she agreed for an arranged marriage barely four months after her guy went his way. Now she seems to have developed cold feet. This has been going on for two weeks. She says she still loves her ex, who has moved on in life. How can I help her?
— Subur


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Dear Subur,
Your daughter has not moved on in life. She needs closure from her earlier relationship. As they say time heals all wounds, so instead of getting her engaged within four months after her break-up, you should have waited for a while. Her mind is still not clear what she wants while her heart still pines for her ex. Give her some time to grieve and overcome her loss. For now just let her be, till she is able to move on.