Dear Diana,
I am in love with this girl who stays as a paying guest in Mumbai. She is from Jodhpur. When I asked her to move in with me in, she refused. At the same time she tells me she loves me and cannot wait to be with me. Why this attitude? Why cannot she stay with me? When I ask her the reason, she says she cannot take such a big decision at this moment.
— Piyush


Illustration/ Amit Bandre 

Dear Piyush
Your girlfriend is perhaps not too sure about a future with you. She is undecided about the relationship at this stage. This could be the reason she is averse to living in with you. Or perhaps she is worried what the society will think. You need to sit down and talk to her. You cannot pressurise her into doing something she is not comfortable with. You need to take heed of her anxieties and fears.