Dear Diana,
I have been with my girlfriend for almost two years. A month ago, I discovered that she had been visiting online dating sites. On asking her, she told me she never did. But I keep checking the history on her laptop, and she is clearly a liar. When I questioned her again, she told me she just did it for kicks. She also told me I had no business checking her chat history. Now, I'm afraid to love her the way I did before as I do not trust her now.
— Youhan


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Youhan,
You have been regularly checking the chat history on your girlfriend's laptop. This is a clear sign that you do not trust her. She may have been aware of it due to which she started visiting online dating sites. You belong to those group of guys who are always going through personal stuff of their girlfriends and wives. A relationship is based on trust, not suspicion. Sit down and talk to her about it. Hear her out and then accordingly take a decision.