Dear Diana,
We are college friends who are seeing each other. Now we have started working, but my girlfriend is secretive about the relationship. No one knows that we love each other. So far we have managed to keep things under wraps, but now I feel we should tell our folks. She is against it. I really don't know why she wants to keep it a secret even after three years of being together.
— Aaarish


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Dear Aaarish,
To be secretive initially is understandable as you may not be sure of each other. But even after so many years when you are comfortable and serious about each other, it is rather strange. Your girl has to tell you why she does not want her family to know about it. No matter what people may say, if you really like someone, you shouldn't be ashamed to say it. If she is dilly-dallying, she is not worthy of your love. Give her a time frame and if she does not relent, you need to do rethink about her affections for you.