Dear Diana,
My boyfriend and I were going slow in our relationship. He obeyed my wish not to get physical. However last week, I gave in and after sleeping together, he is a changed man. He doesn't seem interested in me anymore. It is as if he just wanted sex and now that the job has been done, it is time to move on. It is upsetting me that I was just used to satisfy his physical urges.
— Haruna


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Haruna,
It is clear that this guy only had sex on his mind. If he really loved you and cared for you, he would not have behaved in this atrocious manner. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. He needs to know that he has hurt you badly. Also, he needs to tell you what has ticked him off. Not that he will make amends, but he owes you an explanation. Next time be wary of the guy you befriend — get to know what is on his mind to avoid heartbreak.