Dear Diana,
I'm 24 and by my own confession, a motormouth. I'm talkative by nature and am known to spill secrets — unintentionally though. Thanks to this understandably mistaken nature of mine, my boyfriend keeps mentioning that he doesn't find me trustworthy enough. It's quite obvious that I love him to bits, but he somehow tries to score a point by focussing on my inadequacies.
— Devi


Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Devi,
If you go around blurting out whatever you or he did, it is pretty obvious that he will be offended. Being of a friendly disposition is one thing, but you should know when to draw the line. If you are telling all your personal tidbits to those around, it is a cause of alarm. He may not be as outgoing as you, so he has his reasons for not spilling the beans. Stop yourself from saying personal stuff, take a deep breath whenever you feel you are in a motormouth mode. This will stop you from telling all. Once he realises that you are not revealing everything, he will regain the confidence he had in you.