Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship with an office colleague for about six months. Even after we broke up, she tried talking to me, but I would disconnect the phone. Later, I felt I had been harsh on her, so made up and began talking to her. Now she tells me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship. To make things worse, she's gone to back to her abusive ex. She just refuses to listen to me now.
— Harit

 

Dear Harit,
You are getting a taste of your own medicine. You acted difficult with her and cut her out of her life when she tried to make amends and be with you again. Later, you made amends, but you cannot act according to your whims and fancies. When you feel like, you want her or otherwise you don't. It is obvious that she is hitting back at you and on a rebound gone back to her abusive ex. If you really care for her and want her back, apologise that is if she is willing to be a part of your life again. If she does not, go your own way.