If you stick with a winner, You might just become one

A bizarre new consumer study reiterates what your class teacher always told youu00a0change your company to change your performance iTALK shows you how hanging out with gogetters can make you oneYuki owes his success to usJunior Australian Open winner Yuki Bhambris elder sister Sanaa says little bro is going places because he saw success all around him while growing up He saw Ankita and me training hard travelling and winning attention from our parents That got him motivated He will always have the hand of experience to guide himThey say youve got to do your own growing no matter how high your grandpa stood But when you walk with someone who stands tall at work you are bound to push your chin up harder A strange experiment carried out by author Arul Mishra of the University of Utah proves that our everyday choices are based on the principle of contagion and consequently being close to a person who has that winningstreak makes you imbibe itParticipants of Mishras study were asked to choose a cola bottle from one of two groups In one group the bottles were close together and in the other they had been arranged somewhat apart When volunteers were told that one of the bottles in each group contained a gift coupon the majority of subjects chose a bottle from the fizzies huddled together But when they were told that one of the bottles in each group was defective most of them picked one from the group that was arranged apartThe tests published in the Journal of Consumer Research concluded that qualities are contagious transferable and quite pervasive in ordinary everyday choices Our desi findings on the professional platform reflected the sameHow to make a friends success work for you Observe hisher daily habits Steal the best Talk about personal and professional goals Hisher words may prove helpful Take quick onthejob tips if heshes been in the same situation before and emerged a winner Think over hisher advice but dont follow it blindly Trust your instinct It is important to learn from your own mistakesBut you wont lose if a loser gets closeIf youre one of the top employees in office and fear that others would strip you of your success by getting too close and causing harm this ageold saying by sage Rahim should ease your fearsJo Rahim uttam prakriti ka kar sakat kusangChandan vish vyapat nahi lapte rahat bhujang Even though poisonous snakes twirl around sandalwood trees the latter never loses its fragrance or qualities just like you wont if you believe in yourselfWhat to readThe Power of WhoIn the book The Power of Who author and motivator Bob Beaudine challenges many widelyheld presumptions on how to get the job you want including the importance of traditional networking Instead he says one should identify people within ones own group of friends and friends of friends as they are the foundation for making dreams come true An excerpt tells you how to choose pals who can have a positive influence on your professional lifeWhat is a Who friend A Who friend will call a halt to fearful thinking by insisting we stop listening to our own negative selftalk In the face of those lies they will start speaking truth the truth about your value and uniqueness and the value of your dreams and goals A Who friend will intercept you on the dark path youve taken and redirect your steps back on to the path of light They know you care for you and will remind you that you have a future and hope A Who friend knows your true identity and wont let you forget itPositivity rubs offPsychologist Dr Samir Parikh Head of Mental Health at the Max Healthcare Centre says Any positivity just like any negativity rubs off When you are close to a person who is focused and hardworking the attributes are bound to pass onGreat company kept them goingUjjala Bhattacharjee GuptaCommunication ConsultantIve always seen wellperforming friends and colleagues as a benchmark for good standards and watching them excel fires a positive competitive urge within me But you must know your limitations so that an inferiority complex doesnt creep inVishal DadlaniSingercomposerTo me success isnt a goal but a journey and along the way I have learnt a lot about music dealing with people and life in general from Shekhar Rajviani and my band Good company has great powerJasmine Arora Senior Marketing Executive SonyMany of my colleagues and close friends have inspired me in various ways Of course for a moment you cant help but experience a pang of jealousy that sends you into introspection mode Eventually it turns into a hunger for achievement