Dear Diana,
I turn 20 in two days but I'm still a virgin. Some nights, I lie awake at night and despise myself for it. There are times I think it's fine and that I shouldn't worry.

I've considered employing the services of a call girl to lose my virginity and get it over and done with but backed out at the last minute for fears of contracting STDs. I'm so confused all the time. It kills me to see a couple in the street or hear friends talking about their girlfriends. I feel so lonely all the time!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You're only 20. Stop fussing so much about still being a virgin. It's not all that big a deal as people make it out to be. Having safe sex with a sex worker isn't a good idea, either. I think you should hold out until you meet that someone special. Your first time should be with someone special or at least, someone who wants you sexually. I understand it must be difficult seeing others romancing their significant others while you're all alone but remember it's just a phase. Be optimistic. Times will change and you will find someone soon.

Will the attraction go away?

Dear Diana,
Why would two people who are really attracted to each other avoid or ignore one another? And, does this mean the attraction will go away or will it get worse?