Ayesha and Karan (names anonymised), a couple in their early 30s, have been married for five years and call Mumbai their home. Their relationship, once filled with passion and excitement, is now fueled with challenges due to intimacy issues. Not only has their companionship dwindled, but their ability to gauge each other’s expectations has gone for a toss, leaving both partners frustrated. Ayesha yearns for emotional closeness and physical intimacy as an expression of love. While Karan, burdened by the pressures of work and the urban lifestyle, struggles to comprehend the depth of Ayesha's desires. The duo has reached a deadlock as one partner struggles to understand the needs of the other, creating a rift between them.This brings us to the question: Are couples in the urban landscape dealing with intimacy issues? Mumbai-based relationship coach, Anjali Tyagi informs, “Couples in metro cities are indeed grappling with intimacy issues. Additionally, the post-Covid era has witnessed a 10-20 per cent surge of couples actively seeking professional help to address their intimacy challenges.”The disconnect has led to a less-talked-about intimacy crisis, culminating in an emotional distance between partners, who are stuck in a seemingly unsolvable situation. To find the pathway ahead, Midday reached out to relationship experts, dissecting the intricate factors and causes contributing to intimacy deal breakers. Common intimacy deal breakersIntimacy deal breakers can vary from one relationship to another, as they are often deeply personal and depend on individual preferences, needs and boundaries. Shatavisha Majumdar, consultant clinical psychologist from Cadabams Mind Talk shares common intimacy deal breakers in relationships:1. Lack of communication: Poor communication can manifest as a failure to openly express feelings and personal desires. It can lead to dissatisfaction and emotional distance.2. Emotional neglect: Neglecting one another's emotional needs can manifest as a lack of affection, support or empathy, leaving one or both partners feeling unfulfilled.3. Sexual incompatibility: Mismatched sexual desires or frequency can be a cause of frustration and resentment, potentially becoming a deal breaker.4. Trust issues: These can manifest through jealousy, suspicion or betrayal, eroding the foundation of trust essential for intimacy.5. Unresolved conflict: Frequent unresolved conflicts and ongoing tension can hinder emotional closeness and lead to a breakdown in the relationship.6. Different life goals: If partners have fundamentally different long-term goals or values, it can create a disconnect that jeopardises intimacy.7. Emotional baggage: Past traumas, unresolved issues or personal baggage can impact intimacy, often appearing as emotional walls or difficulty in forming deep connections. Factors that affect a person's libidoFluctuations in hormone levels, such as those that occur during pregnancy, menopause, or due to medical conditions, can impact libido. High levels of stress or chronic fatigue, health conditions like diabetes, obesity or cardiovascular problems, lack of exercise, alcohol and drug abuse, persistent pain or illness can diminish the desire for physical intimacy. “Societal expectations and traditional gender roles can also play a role in making it difficult for some men to open up about intimacy when they are depressed,” informs Tyagi. Depression often leads to a range of emotional and psychological symptoms, such as low self-esteem, thereby pushing a person into feelings of hopelessness, and difficulty in speaking about intimacy issues.Natural age-related changes, such as a decrease in sex hormones, can also affect libido. Additionally, worries about work, finances or other life concerns can be distracting. Conflicts, unresolved problems or emotional distance within the relationship can dampen desire. Negative body image can also result in reduced confidence. The case of mismatched expectationsDiffering expectations regarding intimacy can lead to conflict when one partner expects more emotional or physical closeness than the other, shares Majumdar. For instance, one partner may want daily expressions of affection, while the other prefers more personal space. One partner may want to talk openly about their feelings, while the other prefers a more reserved approach, causing a breakdown in communication. These discrepancies can lead to hurt feelings and resentment where one partner feels neglected, unloved or pressured. Differing views on personal space and boundaries can create conflict too. One partner might believe in sharing everything, while the other values their independence and personal time, leading to disagreements about what is considered "too close" or "too distant." If one partner sees intimacy as a precursor to long-term commitment, while the other views it as a more casual aspect of the relationship, it can lead to a misalignment of expectations and potential conflict. Does emotional intimacy matter?When partners avoid discussing important topics like emotional needs, sexual desires, boundaries or past issues, it can create a lack of understanding and emotional distance. When partners don't actively listen to each other's concerns or when one partner shuts down or refuses to engage in a conversation – it makes the other partner feel unheard and unimportant, damaging emotional connection.Keeping secrets, hiding feelings or failing to disclose important information can create a lack of trust and emotional intimacy. Expecting a partner to know one's needs without clear communication, using critical or accusatory language, frequent interruptions, resorting to passive-aggressive behaviours, avoiding taking responsibility for one's actions or shifting blame, discussing sensitive topics at inappropriate times, dismissing a partner's emotions, downplaying their concerns can lead to the break down of intimacy at an emotional level. What role do past traumas play?Individuals with past traumas may struggle to trust their partners fully. This lack of trust can manifest as suspicion, jealousy or a general hesitancy to be vulnerable, all of which hinder intimacy. Traumatic experiences can lead to the creation of emotional walls or barriers as a coping mechanism that prevent individuals from opening up, sharing their feelings, and forming deep emotional connections with their partners. “Sometimes, people unconsciously reenact patterns of trauma in their current relationships. This can lead to repetitive and destructive behaviours. Fear of triggering past trauma while discussing sensitive topics can result in avoidance, which can impede healthy communication”, adds Tyagi. Certain situations or actions by a partner may trigger painful memories or emotions associated with past traumas. Couples can address these challenges through open and safe communication, establishing clear boundaries and mutually agreed-upon rules for communication and emotional support, actively acknowledging, addressing and confronting one's trauma with an individual therapist, couples therapy, and mutual support. Overcoming sexual incompatibilityWhen partners have significantly different levels of sexual desire, it can lead to underwhelming emotions and dissatisfaction. One partner may feel neglected or pressured, while the other may feel overwhelmed or resentful. Mismatched sexual preferences, such as varying interests or kinks, can create tension if one partner's desires are not met or if they find their partner's preferences uncomfortable or unfulfilling. Sexual compatibility can be affected by performance problems, such as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. However, Majumdar remarks that sexual compatibility can change over time and that it's not the sole determinant of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. A willingness to adapt and evolve together is key to addressing sexual compatibility issues. The first and most crucial step is to openly discuss sexual desires, boundaries, and concerns. Partners can work together to find a balance between their desires and preferences through honest and non-judgmental conversations. Prioritising emotional connection and non-sexual bonding can help maintain closeness even when sexual compatibility is a challenge. If communication or compatibility issues persist, seeking the guidance of a sex therapist or couple therapist can be highly beneficial. Ways to address intimacy issues1. Continually engage in open and honest conversations about your feelings, needs and desires. 2. Discuss what makes you feel close and loved, as well as any concerns or issues that may arise. 3. Set aside quality time for each other regularly like date nights, weekend getaways or simply spending evenings together without distractions. 4. Physical touch and affection, such as hugs and cuddling, surprising your partner with gestures of love and appreciation can keep the romance alive. 5. Find common hobbies or activities you both enjoy. While shared activities are important, it's also crucial to maintain individuality and personal space. 6. Use conflict resolution skills that promote understanding and compromise rather than escalation. Periodically assess your relationship and discuss what's working and what could be improved. 7. Recognise that you are two distinct individuals with your own interests and lives. Respect your partner's autonomy and encourage their personal growth and independence.8. Shared values are essential for a strong, lasting connection. Embrace these differences in opinions, interests or background and use them as opportunities for personal growth and learning9. Be reliable, keep your promises and demonstrate trustworthiness. Avoid actions that could undermine trust, such as dishonesty or secrecy. 10. Allow the relationship to develop naturally. Invest time in getting to know your partner's values, beliefs and life goals. 11. Celebrate and appreciate the small, everyday moments in your relationship. Take care of yourself both physically and emotionally.
18 December,2023 07:00 PM IST | Mumbai | Ainie Rizvi
Despite our reservations attached to ‘manifestation’ – the cosmic belief has found a footing among Gen Z and millennial dating pools. The "think it, get it" technique appears almost too idealistic but is emerging as a tool for intention-setting and self-fulfilment. The faith system revolves around the active engagement of the mind to manifest a vision, idea or dream from the realm of thoughts into tangible reality. According to a recent survey by Tinder, 40 per cent of Indian youth believe manifesting is the new astrology. Additionally, there has been a 66 per cent rise in the use of the word 'manifestation' on bios of popular dating apps. Why a growing interest in this transient philosophy, we ask? Ravi Mittal – the founder and CEO of popular Indian dating app QuackQuack, tells Midday, “The increase in the use of 'manifestation' on dating app bios reflects a profound shift in the mindset of young daters. A rising number of young adults acknowledges the transformative power of the mind to shape one's destiny.” Mittal continues, “The direct observation of this trend shows that modern daters are not passively hoping for the best but are proactively developing their mindset to actuate its vision.” So, how does manifestation work in the realm of dating? To find out, Midday.com racked the brains of a relationship expert, a psychologist, a counsellor and an astrologer. Here’s what we found: The role of manifestation in dating realms When it comes to dating, the manifestation process plays a pivotal role by delving into the subconscious aspects of an individual's desires, opines Awasthi. Rather than relying on verbal expressions, true intentions are often revealed through subconscious behaviours. Those adept at articulating their genuine desires tend to navigate the dating landscape more effortlessly, finding partners that align with their authentic wants. Here, manifestation acts as a bridging mechanism, urging individuals to openly communicate their subconscious desires and break away from societal expectations. It encourages a focus on partners who genuinely enhance one's life rather than conforming to societal norms. When approached sincerely, the manifestation process brings clarity, revealing that Indians, for instance, tend to manifest partners who support their professional goals and balance traditional values with contemporary lifestyles. However, it's crucial to use manifestation authentically and avoid creating an unrealistic ideal partner, recognising that true clarity may not be achieved through conforming to external expectations set by family, peers or social media. “As young people look for ways to navigate modern challenges that come with dating, manifesting offers a practical and personal approach to shaping their reality,” shares Dr. Madhu Kotiya – a New Delhi-based psychic counsellor and healer. Alternatively, the rise in the use of 'manifestation' in dating app bios may be linked to the collective desire for intentional connections, shares Harshit Raj Vajpayee – a Vedic astrologer and spiritual Counsellor. Certain astrological transits might influence a more deliberate and focused approach to relationships, emphasising shared values and goals. What to manifest while seeking a partner When individuals seek a new romantic relationship, various psychological and emotional needs surface, shaping the desires and expectations of the partner. Awasthi shares factors to be considered while manifesting a romantic partner: Security and trustEmbracing a relationship often stems from a fundamental need for security and trust. Individuals seek emotional safety in a partner, desiring someone with whom they can share vulnerabilities without fear of judgement. Trust forms the foundation of a healthy relationship, providing a sense of stability that is crucial for emotional well-being. Connection and intimacyThe pursuit of connection and intimacy is a prevalent psychological need in relationships. Human beings crave meaningful connections and embracing a romantic relationship satisfies the innate desire for emotional closeness. The shared experiences, both positive and challenging, contribute to the deepening of emotional bonds and fulfilment of the need for intimacy. Validation and self-worthEmbracing a relationship often fulfils the psychological need for validation and affirmation. Individuals seek acknowledgment and acceptance from their partners, as it contributes significantly to their sense of self-worth. Positive feedback and appreciation within a relationship can bolster self-esteem and create a supportive environment for personal growth. Autonomy and independenceWhile relationships satisfy the need for connection, individuals also harbour a need for autonomy and independence. Striking a balance between togetherness and personal space is crucial. Embracing a relationship that respects individuality fosters a healthy emotional environment, allowing each partner to maintain a sense of self and pursue personal interests and goals. Manifestation – a coping mechanism for young adults For young people negotiating societal demands, career problems and personal growth in a dynamic environment, manifestation acts as a coping strategy and a proactive method, remarks Awasthi. It becomes a hands-on belief system that serves as a placebo effect to induce a sense of control over their destiny and future outcomes. Manifestation is initiated, driven and controlled by its practitioner, providing a sense of agency for him to create his own story. It is a story of empowerment, giving one the power to actively create his or her reality with good thoughts and intentions, which appeals to those wanting to live life on their own terms. This growing interest in manifesting can be attributed to a search for personal empowerment and control in a rapidly changing world. Unlike traditional astrology, which is often seen as deterministic and reliant on external celestial influences, manifesting empowers individuals by emphasising their internal power and intention. It’s a pragmatic approach, where one's thoughts and feelings are believed to directly influence their reality. This shift from external to internal control can be particularly appealing in today's self-driven, individualistic culture, tells Kotiya to Midday. The downside of manifesting The primary risk associated with manifestation arises when there's a plan in place but no subsequent action. Mere manifestation without tangible steps toward the set goals leads to unfulfilled aspirations. Depending solely on external factors for goal attainment may prove to be ineffective. Consequently, stress becomes a significant drawback, particularly when the manifestation is rooted in idealised representations prevalent on social media, altering perceptions and behaviour in relationships, often driven by a desire for public approval. This approach may result in overlooking potential matches better suited to the individual while waiting for someone to meet unrealistic expectations. Another peril is the potential for delusion, wherein individuals dismiss red flags in the pursuit of a romantic relationship, making them vulnerable targets for scams. To mitigate these risks, it's imperative to strike a balance between manifestation and a pragmatic understanding of relationships, recognising the need for effort and compromise. Staying grounded, trusting intuition, and addressing concerns during the manifestation process are essential for a healthier approach to relationships. Expert-backed tips for manifestation Exploring manifestation to enhance your relationships or dating experiences can be a transformative journey. Here are some practical tips to guide you along the way: Write it downNothing brings clarity like putting pen to paper (or text on a screen). Be specific about what you want from the relationship and not just a partner - think about the feelings you would like to experience in an ideal relationship, the conversations you would like to have and the personal goals you would like to achieve. This will also help you understand the work you need to do on yourself to be able to achieve this relationship. Affirmations and mindsetUse affirmations to reinforce positive beliefs about relationships. Affirmations can reshape your mindset and attract the energy you want. Create affirmations that reflect the love, respect and compatibility you aim for. Repeat them daily to instil these beliefs into your subconscious. Self-Improvement and opennessSometimes what we manifest may come to us rather indirectly – so be open to new experiences. Manifesting is not just about changing external circumstances but also about evolving internally with new experiences. Cultivate qualities that contribute to a healthy relationship, such as empathy, communication skills and emotional intelligence. The impact of manifesting on the future of dating As the practice of manifesting gains momentum, its impact on the future of Indian dating and relationships is poised to be significant, ushering in both challenges and opportunities. Shift in expectationsThe growing popularity of manifesting could lead to a shift in individuals' expectations of their relationships. People might become more intentional about their desires and preferences, fostering clarity in communication and compatibility. This shift could contribute to healthier and more fulfilling connections. On the other hand, the practice of manifesting might also give rise to unrealistic expectations. To ensure a positive outcome, those manifesting should seek guidance and accept that a relationship is created through interaction and growth. Increased focus on personal growthManifesting often involves setting intentions for personal growth and self-improvement. Couples may engage in mutual support for each other's aspirations, fostering a culture of continuous improvement within relationships. However, people may use their self-improvement goals to postpone or delay a commitment, without realising that self-improvement is a constant journey that doesn't need to be completed before getting into a relationship. Integration of technology and dating apps The rise of manifesting could influence the development of better dating apps and platforms in India. A swipe will no longer be considered an interaction, a match will no longer suffice as a date and dating apps will no longer be able to be just discovery platforms for seeing who is single. These platforms will be required to incorporate features that allow users to align their intentions and preferences, facilitating more meaningful connections. More importantly, Awasthi opines that dating apps should focus on increasing actual interactions and ensuring that they provide a safe space for their users to express their needs in an ideal relationship. Why manifesting is not new to Indians Upon retrospection of Indian spiritual and philosophical literature, the term 'Sankalpa' comes to light. Found in ancient Vedic texts and Upanishads, it refers to the ‘compelling force of intention.’ The technique has been mentioned in ancient Hindu texts, where it emphasises the power of intention and draws its dynamics from the law of attraction. So, while it may be expressed through different mediums like yoga, meditation or just introspection – the practice is not alien to Indians. Certain prayers and rituals in multiple religions also offer a rundown approach to setting intentions, informs Saurabh Awasthi, the co-founder of the dating app Meet7. Additionally, the famous dialogue by Shahrukh Khan in Om Shanti Om – “Once you make a decision, the entire universe conspires to make it happen,” serves as a resounding affirmation. It sheds light on the action-oriented approach to improve one’s immediate state, rather than getting overwhelmed by an unforeseeable future. Thus, the practice gives individuals a sense of autonomy and hope for a better life.
17 December,2023 11:00 PM IST | Mumbai | Ainie Rizvi
We have the Indian cinema to blame. From ‘pehli nazar wala pyaar’, ‘aashiqui wala pyaar’ to ‘mai tumhare liye chand taare tod ke launga wala pyaar’, we have defined love by these ideal and unrealistic gestures. Is true love really about grand gestures and recital of constant ‘I love yous’? Certainly not. Dating and relationship pundits term such acts of constant bombardment of love, grand gestures, and showering of expensive gifts as ‘love bombing.’ Ruchi Ruuh, psychologist and relationship counsellor says, “The term ‘love bombing’ originated in the context of cults and manipulative relationships. It describes a manipulative tactic where excessive affection, attention, and compliments are used to gain control or influence over a person.” A person is made to feel special and desired with grand gestures like constant text messages, compliments, and extravagant gifts that seem inappropriate. It’s all done to hasten the process of trust and love. “The love-bombed person feels captivated and starts idealising the love-bomber, so much so that they feel that this is how the entire relationship is going to be. However, unfortunately, once the love bomber gains the desired control or emotional dependence from their partner, their behaviour may change dramatically. They may become distant, indifferent, or even abusive. This sudden shift can leave the partner confused, hurt, and vulnerable,” adds Ruuh. This was the case for 22-year-old Neha Awasti (name changed for privacy reasons). “He did everything for me, from the bare minimum to grand gestures. He would pay a surprise visit when I least expected it. He ensured I took my medicines on sick days. Even on days that we fought, he made up for it by showing up with a huge chocolate the next day. He took me out to my favourite restaurants. He would call me by cute names, and tell me that I am the first girl he plans on marrying. It was easy to fall for his actions that screamed love.” Neha found out that her ex-partner was cheating on her for over a year in their two-year-long relationship. She says the reason he bombarded her with love was to win her trust and ensure she never once questioned his love. “He was manipulating me to think that he loved me. If we fought, he would blame me for it and I would be the one always apologising and crying. He made me think he was always logical and practical.” Neha is no longer in a relationship with him but she says he still attempts to patch up. “The post-break-up phase is really hard. It’s like I’m trying to get off a drug. My brain craves his love even though I very well know that it was all a sham and I deserve better. There are days when I feel like going back to him and giving in to his ideas of trying again, but I step back and analyse my thoughts. I am taking time to cope and I am being easy on myself for making mistakes.” Hitesh Chakraworty, relationship expert and spiritual healer calls love bombing an unhealthy dating habit. He opines, “In a genuine loving relationship there is no need to make grand gestures simply to impress a partner. There are other healthy ways of expressing love. While love bombing initially appears positive and flattering, is not a healthy dating habit. It is manipulative and emotionally damaging as it aims to control and overwhelm the other person, blurring boundaries and creating a false sense of intimacy.” Identifying whether you are being love-bombed or not can be tricky. Both Ruuh and Chakraworty dive deep into the nitty-gritty of this toxic trait. Signs of love bombingRuuh lays down some key signs that indicate you are being love-bombed by your partner. 1. Rapid progression of the relationshipThe start of the relationship feels like a whirlwind. There is a talk of a future together, talks of exclusivity and commitment, and constant contact. 2. Feels like you are being chasedIt feels like a hunt as the love bomber is constantly hunting for your time and attention. They pursue you relentlessly and start acting jealous and possessive. 3. IdealisationThere is a lot of idealisation in these situations. Love bombers have a special way of making you feel like you are in a perfect relationship by making ideal gestures, and it’s hard not to fall for it. 4. IsolationThey might want you to stop speaking to your friends or family. They do so to gain control over your thoughts and discourage you from sharing your experience with others. It’s only by isolation can they win over you completely. 5. Hot and cold behaviourThere is never any consistency in their behaviour. One day they will spend an entire day on the video call only to ghost you for the next few days. They may seem emotionally withdrawn or abusive suddenly. 6. ManipulationLove bombing is full of lies, gaslighting, guilt-tripping and shaming. You are made to feel bad for having a voice or autonomy. 7. You find excuses to justify their behaviour You see yourself compromising on your values and making excuses for their bad behaviour and abuse. 8. The relationship becomes an addictionThe entire relationship feels like an addiction. You feel euphoric when you get their attention and extreme disorientation or withdrawal when they pull away or act distant. The root cause of love bombing someone There can be multiple factors at play here. Some might not even realise that their actions are leading to love bombing their partner. 1. Fear of abandonmentThe fear of being rejected or abandoned may drive someone to employ love bombing as a strategy to quickly escalate a connection and prevent the other person from leaving. 2. InsecuritiesIndividuals with low self-esteem might use love bombing as a way to seek validation and approval and feel good about themselves in the process. 3. ManipulationIn some cases, love bombing is a deliberate tactic employed to manipulate, and gain control over someone emotionally and create dependency. 4. ControlLove bombing can be a way for someone to assert control early in a relationship. By overwhelming the other person with affection, they may influence their thoughts and decisions. However, some individuals may genuinely believe in expressing love strongly and quickly. It becomes a concern when these behaviours are disproportionate and lack sincerity, consistency and context. Distinguishing between genuine love and hidden intent According to Chakraworty, “Differentiating between genuine gestures and love bombing can be challenging but observing the pace, consistency, and sincerity of actions over time can help. Genuine gestures are usually consistent, respectful of boundaries, and develop gradually, whereas love bombing tends to be intense, overwhelming, and lacks genuine depth. Further, one must observe the expectations of the other person, because if there is genuine love there won't be many expectations.” Here are some key signs of healthy expression of love: 1. Context: A genuine expression of love is typically proportional to the stage and depth of the relationship, while love bombing may feel excessive or rushed. 2. ConsistencyGenuine gestures are consistent over time, reflecting a steady and authentic emotional connection. Whereas love bombing lacks continuity and has periods of hot and cold. 3. ReciprocationHealthy relationships involve mutual giving and receiving of love and affection. If one person is consistently showering the other with affection without it being reciprocated, it could be a sign of love bombing. 4. Respect for Boundaries: Genuine expressions of love involve respecting the other person's boundaries and comfort levels. Love bombing may involve pushing boundaries or disregarding the other person's need for space. Negative impact of love bombing on the victimBesides leading to confusion, dependency and low self-esteem, getting out of love bombing can be difficult due to the phenomenon known as ‘trauma bonding.’ Ruuh says, “Trauma bonding refers to a strong emotional connection that develops between a person and their partner, often in abusive or manipulative relationships.” Further, love bombing can negatively impact individuals by causing emotional exhaustion due to overwhelming affection. The rapid and intense emotional connection can lead to a loss of independence, and the manipulative nature of love bombing can erode trust, making it difficult to navigate future relationships. In extreme cases, it can lead to more harmful manipulation, contributing to long-term emotional distress. The way out1. Regularly express your feelings and expectations. Ensure both partners are on the same page about their emotional needs and desires. 2. Prioritise meaningful time together. Engage in activities that lead to connection and enjoyment. 3. Sustain gestures of love and appreciation consistently over time rather than in sporadic, intense bursts of affection. 4. Talk about shared goals in the relationship that contribute to the overall growth and strength of the relationship. 5. Introduce spontaneity and surprises into the relationship but in moderation. Make sure that these gestures match the comfort levels of both partners. 6. One must be aware of the signs of love bombing and acknowledge if the gestures seem disproportionate or insincere. 7. Create space to reflect on the relationship with friends or in therapy. This reflection can shed light on the aspects you might be missing.
13 December,2023 09:24 AM IST | Mumbai | Aakanksha AhireThe popular dating app, Bumble, has garnered insights from more than 25,000 singles around the world to identify trends that will define dating and relationships in the year to come. Bumble’s 2023 trends focused on navigating love abroad with Wanderlove, dating beyond your type with Open-casting, and establishing new boundaries with our partners, our work lives, and our finances. Looking ahead, 2024 is set to be the year of “self” in dating and relationships with more people looking inwards at what they value and want. This personal prioritisation sees singles rejecting the constant strive for perfection, discarding outdated timelines, challenging ‘jobification’, and placing more value on emotional vulnerability, self-acceptance, and shared priorities. Heading into 2024, there is an air of optimism and clarity for the ‘year of self’ as Bumble’s research shows that more than half (59 percent) of Indian women surveyed are going into the new year with a clear view of what they want from their romantic lives. Dating trends for 2024: Val-Core Dating: Singles today are looking for shared priorities and expect their partners to not only care about social causes but to actively engage. Val-Core refers to the rise of people valuing engagement on issues that matter to them. For 1 in 4 (25 percent) people on Bumble, it is key that their partner actively engages with politics and social causes. In fact, 41 percent of Indians say their potential partner engaging in politics and voting is important to them. When it comes to dating, Bumble’s research shows that women are less open to someone with differing political views for 1 in 3 (33 percent) women globally it is a turn-off if someone they are dating is not aware of current societal issues. When it comes to dating, Bumble’s research shows that the most important social cause Indians want their partners to engage with is Human rights issues (64 percent). Research also shows for 38 percent of Indian women, it is important that a potential partner has a passion for the same values as them. Betterment Burnout: From biohacking and starting your day at 5 a.m., to plugging into self-help podcasts, there has been a rise in people ‘self-optimising’ - striving to become a perfect version of themselves. This has led the majority of singles (55 percent) to feel pressure to constantly look for ways to better themselves, leaving 1 in 4 (24 percent) feeling unworthy of a partner. Looking ahead to 2024, singles are rebelling against the constant self-improvement with more than 2 in 3 women surveyed (68 percent) globally taking active steps to be happier with who they are here and now. In fact, 56 percent of Indian women will now only date people who will not try to change them. Intuitive Intimacy: For people today, and particularly women, it seems attraction comes down to one key thing: emotional intimacy. Singles are focused on finding security, safety and understanding, with more than a third (35 percent) of people surveyed in India believing that emotional intimacy is now more important than sex and that it’s actually more attractive than physical connection. When it comes to dating, 3 in 4 women (78 percent) say it’s key that their partner has an understanding of both emotional and physical intimacy. In 2024, it’s time to get on your feet. Open-hearted masculinity: The year has been filled with global conversations about masculinity and gender roles in fashion, media, music and film (ken-ergy, anyone?). When it comes to relationships, 1 in 4 (25 percent) men globally state that they have actively changed their behaviour, becoming more vulnerable and open with people they are dating than ever before. For a quarter of Indian men (26 percent), this new-found openness has had a positive impact on their mental health and for 37 percent of Indian men, a lack of vulnerability is now a dating dealbreaker. MVP (Most Valuable Partner): With a new wave of women tennis stars, a constant stream of sports documentaries, and a global competition next year, sports is set to take a front seat in dating - or maybe we’re just all after our own Taylor and Kelce love story? For 35 percent of single Indians, a shared love of sports has now become a ‘must have’ regardless of whether you’re a player or simply a spectator. Our obsession with sports is also changing how we date with 30 percent of single Indians stating that attending sports together is important, more so with Genz (33 percent) than Millennials (26 percent). Almost three-quarters (73 percent) of profiles in India include a sports interest badge and the top athletics include cricket and football. Consider-date: This year’s prioritisation of self-care and mental health has led to more than half (58 percent) of singles being more open about their mental health and making a concerted effort to slow down. Single Indians are reframing how they date to better protect their mental health, with 1 in 3 (33 percent) actively ‘slow-dating’ and being considerate about how much they are dating to ensure quality over quantity, even more so amongst women. In fact, 42 percent of Indian women are actively seeking people who value both time and self-care. This story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed, agencies. Mid-day accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability, trustworthiness, reliability and data of the text. Mid-day management/mid-day.com reserves the sole right to alter, delete or remove (without notice) the content in its absolute discretion for any reason whatsoever
13 December,2023 08:00 AM IST | New Delhi | IANSWhile weddings are fun to attend for many people, this busy wedding season often brings societal and familial pressures especially for single women in India when it comes to following traditional relationship milestones (such as getting married or engaged, finding a long-term relationship or a committed partner and having children) within set timelines or a certain age. Bumble’s new study found that women in India are increasingly rejecting the age-old idea of how their lives should look at a certain age, prioritising their financial independence and careers, and dating at their own pace and timelines looking ahead in 2024. During this wedding season, Bumble shares that a new dating trend ‘Timeline Decline’ is gaining popularity in India which spotlights how women are opting out of and defying traditional relationship timelines and milestones such as getting married or having children within a certain age. This trend takes into consideration responses from 24 per cent of women surveyed in India saying they are no longer focused on adhering to traditional timelines and milestones. This is reflected in intentions with 67 per cent of women surveyed in India looking for a long-term relationship and only 30 per cent of women seeking marriage. 62 per cent of women say they are honest and upfront with potential partners about their goals when it comes to timelines and milestones. For 45 per cent of women, this means only dating people who have the same perspective on timelines and milestones. In fact, 26 per cent of women surveyed in India say they don't feel rushed to meet specific traditional milestones (such as marriage and having children, etc.) as they believe one can do those things at any age. When asked how women approach traditional timelines and milestones, 36 per cent of women respondents say they will take their own time and date at their own pace, while 35 per cent of women respondents say they will only date someone who is okay with them taking their time to commit or get married. Why are women defying traditional relationship timelines? Financial independence (43 per cent) and focusing on career (42 per cent) are the top reasons for women in India to defy traditional relationship timelines. For 36 per cent of women, this means being able to choose their own partner and 35 per cent of women say they want to wait till they find the right person to marry. 28 per cent of Indian women are defying traditional relationship timelines because they want to complete their education first and 22 per cent of women say they want to delay having kids, so they don't want to marry immediately. 22 per cent of Indian women claim they are defying traditional relationship timelines because they are healing from toxic relationships or past trauma. Those who are choosing not to adhere to traditional timelines and milestones, 23 per cent of women respondents in India say they do so by avoiding friends and family who put pressure on them, with a further 45 per cent of women respondents saying they will only date people who have the same goals when it comes to relationship timelines and milestones. “Timeline Decline trend reflects a significant shift in dating as women in India are increasingly looking inwards, opting out of traditional relationship timelines, trying to reclaim autonomy and exercise their agency in their romantic lives. This doesn’t necessarily mean women don’t want to get married, they are prioritising their financial independence and careers and placing themselves at the centre of their lives, wanting to date in a way and at a pace that works best for them. Bumble was built on the foundation that traditional gender roles are outdated and should be challenged and flipped, so we couldn’t be happier to see this encouraging trend for women in India,” shares Samarpita Samaddar, India Communications Director, Bumble. “During the shaadi season more than often, societal and familial pressures surge as women are single-shamed and questioned on why they are not getting married or thinking of having a child, while being reminded of a certain ‘ticking clock’. This kind of single shaming also comes laced with archaic stereotypes that women have to face. In anticipation of such judgments and pressures of trying to justify themselves, attending a loved one's wedding instead of celebrating often becomes a source of anxiety and anguish for single women, when it absolutely shouldn't be. On Bumble, women are in control, choosing who and how they want to date. As we approach 2024, we want to encourage women to date on their own timelines, remember to prioritise yourself and embrace your own path. There is no fixed timeline to life and nothing is hotter than being your true self.” What are the most common stereotypes women in India face or hear about those who want to marry in their own time per Bumble’s new study: For 41 per cent of women, respondents say being too ambitious and career-oriented is the most common stereotype they face. For 40 per cent of women respondents having financial issues is a common stereotype. 32 per cent of Indian women say being too picky and not willing to adjust and for 30 per cent of women, it is women not wanting to take on household responsibilities.
13 December,2023 07:28 AM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondent
Pratkisha Shah (34) is caught up in a bedchamber quandary. In a discrete conversation with Midday, she reveals: “My husband’s idea of how a woman finishes is skewed. It sprouts from watching adult films which are anything but misleading; as that’s not how it unfolds in reality.” Shah is not completely wrong in her claims. Navigating intimacy in a relationship can sometimes be challenging, especially when it comes to aligning expectations with real experiences. While her husband's misplaced notions about female pleasure are impacting their intimacy, there are deeper complexities than what meets the eye. Leeza Mangaldas, sexuality educator and author of The Sex Book states, "Whether it's teachers or families, the discussion around female pleasure is missing or is aimed at discouraging women from striving for it. More so the society attaches shame and judgment to it and rarely highlights the enjoyable aspects of the experience." Do the ladies and their partners relate to this? If yes, fret not as female sexuality is a subject that is widely misunderstood. To clear the air around this, Midday.com spoke to sex experts who break down how female arousal, desire, autonomy pleasure and orgasm work. Additionally, they share tools for men to break myths attached to female pleasure for better intimacy. Common misconceptions around women’s pleasure Despite Shah’s genuine appreciation for the intimacy they share, there are moments of discomfort such as during non-penetrative stimulation, which she found similar to undergoing a pap smear test. “While I do love our physical connection, I've never experienced orgasm during our encounters. Additionally, my attempts to initiate intimacy have been met with discouragement, as he thinks that his efforts are futile since I don't climax,” mumbles Shah. Men may abandon their efforts to satisfy their female partners for various reasons. It could stem from a lack of understanding about their partner's desires. Performance anxiety or a fear of not meeting expectations might also play a role. Additionally, societal pressures and unrealistic expectations around masculinity can create stress, hindering the ability to focus on mutual pleasure. Sexologist and relationship expert – Dr Pavana S from Vidyaranyapura, Bengaluru breaks common misconceptions about women’s pleasure: All women orgasm the same wayData suggests that preferences, desires and what brings pleasure can vary significantly from one woman to the next. However, many men mistakenly assume that all women derive pleasure in the same manner and thus do little to change their approach. This misconception often leads to mundane routines with unmet expectations and misunderstandings, ultimately leading to dissatisfaction. Her lubrication is equivalent to male arousalThe misconception that vaginal lubrication is analogous to an erection creates a misleading belief that if women are sexually aroused, their vagina will lubricate. However, this stands incorrect. The occurrence of lubrication is subject to a phenomenon known as non-concordance, where arousal and physical responses may not align. It's crucial to dispel this myth. Critically, some men may dismissively assert that their female partners don't understand their own bodies, citing dryness despite reported arousal. It is essential to prioritise a woman's subjective experience and communicate openly in order to develop a better understanding of her arousal. Women should orgasm from penetrationThe idea that women should consistently achieve orgasm through penetration alone is another common misconception. In reality, over 70 per cent of women do not reliably orgasm through penetrative sex, and this is entirely healthy and normal. The clitoris, comparable to the penis in males, is a highly sensitive organ that becomes engorged with blood during sexual arousal. It extends internally into the vagina. For most women, achieving orgasm typically involves some degree of clitoral stimulation. Understanding and acknowledging the need for varied forms of stimulation can contribute to a more inclusive perspective on women's sexual experiences. Women can achieve pleasure quicklyInstant gratification can contribute to a missing focus on female pleasure. The belief that female pleasure can be quickly or easily attained is a common fallacy that overlooks the nuanced and individualised aspects of women's sexual experiences. In reality, achieving female pleasure often demands time, open communication and a profound understanding of individual needs. The emphasis on quick satisfaction may lead to a neglect of the diverse ways in which women experience pleasure, hindering the potential for a more fulfilling and mutually satisfying experience. Orgasm-centric focusThe obsession with achieving orgasm as the sole benchmark of female pleasure perpetuates a narrow perspective that can lead to a dissatisfying sexual experience. This misconception overlooks the multifaceted nature of women's sexual pleasure, implying that fulfillment is solely contingent on climax. In reality, women derive satisfaction from diverse aspects of intimacy, including emotional connection, communication and various forms of stimulation. An orgasm-centric focus may create performance pressure, anxiety and feelings of inadequacy for both partners, overshadowing the broader spectrum of enjoyable and meaningful elements within a sexual encounter. Women fake their orgasms sometimes, here’s why A common observation in expert's practice is how little awareness women have about their own pelvic anatomy and erogenous zones. This often leads to a gap in expectations as women are unable to articulate their desires because of which, men might fail to navigate the intimate conundrum. Kritika Khatri (24) shares why she resorts to faking orgasms. “The thing is, I hate to make people feel bad. Like they're doing something wrong when likely it's an issue with me. So, I've just faked my orgasms every single time I have ever been with someone.” Mumbai-based relationship coach, Anjali Tyagi informs, that one common motivation to fake orgasms is the desire to spare their partner's feelings. Women may worry about their partner feeling inadequate or responsible for their inability to climax, even if the issue is not related to their partner's performance. The overbearing expectation that sexual encounters should culminate in orgasm can also contribute to this phenomenon, leading women to simulate pleasure to align with perceived norms. Additionally, some women may fake orgasms due to a lack of understanding about their own desires or discomfort in expressing their needs, choosing to prioritise their partner's feelings over their own satisfaction. Communication barriers around sexual topics, fear of judgment and societal pressures to conform to unrealistic expectations contribute to the prevalence of faking orgasms. The reluctance to openly discuss preferences and address concerns can also lead to a cycle of dissatisfaction. Tyagi opines that women need to be empowered by educating them about ‘what’s what’ down there. Although biology books and Google images of a vulva may help despite that, many women find this hard to relate to and can’t identify all of the parts of the vulva on themselves. Tools for men to navigate female pleasure Prioritise communication and active listeningOpen and honest communication is the cornerstone of any satisfying intimate relationship. Experts opine that imitating conversations about desires, fantasies and boundaries can help bridge the gap. Encourage your partner to share her thoughts by asking about her preferences and understanding her needs. Also, pay attention not only to what she says but also to non-verbal cues during intimate moments. Understand the complexity of female anatomyTake the time to educate yourself about the intricacies of female anatomy. Recognise that pleasure is not limited to one specific area; it involves a combination of physical and emotional factors. Understand the role of the clitoris and play various tempos to land on the one that sits well with her. Pay attention to her responses and how she reacts to different styles of touches. Extend the foreplayIt cannot be stressed enough that foreplay is a crucial component of female pleasure. Rather than rushing towards the showdown, prioritise extended periods of foreplay. This can be done by engaging in a variety of sensual activities to build anticipation and enhance arousal. This not only heightens physical pleasure but also strengthens the emotional connection. Shift the focus from orgasm to overall pleasureMove away from an orgasm-centric mindset. While orgasms can be enjoyable, emphasising overall pleasure and connection can lead to a more satisfying experience for both partners. Understand that women's satisfaction extends beyond achieving climax and encompasses the entire intimate journey. Be attentive to emotional connectionRecognise the importance of emotional connection in fostering female pleasure. A strong emotional bond contributes to a sense of security and comfort, creating an environment where both partners can freely express themselves. Prioritise emotional intimacy alongside physical connection for a more fulfilling experience. Resources on sex education Books:"Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski"She Comes First" by Ian Kerner"5 Love Language" by Gary Chapman Online Platforms: Scarleteen, OMGYes and BetterHelp for relationship counselling. (Shared by Dr Pavana S)
12 December,2023 09:37 PM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondent
When we dine with friends, we split the bill. Do we do the same when we eat with our special someone? Some might say, ‘Why not?’ while some might feel it unnecessary. Ask any happy couple who has been together for years and they will tell you love is never enough to sustain a healthy relationship, especially a marriage. Navigating finance with a partner can be tricky, awkward, and necessary. Just as having discussions about career goals, health and boundaries are essential when entering into a serious relationship that stands a chance to fruition into a marriage, discussing finance too, is crucial. Financial planning between couples, married or unmarried, involves many factors from chalking out a budget to taking care of expenses as well as investments. If you have been racking your brains behind how to approach this subject with your partner, we have three relationship experts directing you towards the right path. Mansi Poddar, psychotherapist and founder at Heal.Grow.Thrive Foundation says, “For any couple to be able to discuss finance, trust and transparency are paramount.” According to her, the first step towards couple financial planning is to work on building trust. She says, “Both partners must be honest about their spending, loans, debt, and monthly income. It is only in the existence of this transparency can a couple aim at building a healthy financial understanding between them.” Expanding on the same, Rhea Joseph, consultant psychiatric social worker and relationship therapist says, “Failure to maintain transparency might not only lead to misunderstandings but could be perceived as a breach of trust, potentially straining the relationship. When financial matters are undisclosed or misrepresented, it can breed feelings of betrayal.” Anuradha Gupta, founder and CEO, Vows for Eternity also adds, “Taking part in financial decision-making together is critical for two partners to ensure a long-term committed relationship. It greatly influences what is to follow throughout life.” The need to discuss finance Financial planning helps a couple to live a harmonious life free from financial stress. Couples in a serious relationship heading in the direction of marriage must have a clear financial structure in place. “Today, as both partners are increasingly financially independent, the focus has shifted from a financial need to a conscious choice of being interdependent,” says Gupta. The magic of a partnership lies in the confidence that financial comfort brings, allowing partners to lean on each other not out of necessity but with a genuine desire to support and strengthen each other. This fosters a deep connection, making the relationship or marriage risk-averse and abundant, both financially and literally. Financial planning also helps couples understand each other’s money habits and what to expect from each other post-marriage. It helps couples discuss what works and does not work for them and thus head towards developing a unified financial strategy. Josephy adds, “Couples must strive to reach a middle ground. Seeking therapy can be instrumental, especially when conflicting views persist.” Healthy financial habits In present times where everything seems to be getting costlier by the day, financial planning becomes crucial for couples aiming to live life a certain way. For starters, Poddar stresses having discussions about money and finance with your partner quite often or at least once a month. Besides discussing, she also mentions always keeping the partner in the loop when making any financial decisions. This applies to even unmarried couples. Informing your partner of planning to make a big purchase before actually going ahead with it, goes a long way. This not only helps build trust but also makes the partner feel valued and respected. Being aligned on key financial matters is integral to the well-being of a relationship. Gupta opines, “Love is never enough to sustain a marriage. I wish air, water and love made the world go round, but they don't. Practicalities always kick in and lead relationships to a breaking point if the couple isn't aligned on financial planning and spending habits.” For couples wanting to practice shared financial management, the boundaries in their relationship should be well-defined and yet must maintain fluidity so the couple has enough room to navigate through anything life throws their way. Always have clarity regarding what you want as a couple. Be it in terms of your envisioned life, a home, where you want to live, your children, their education, etc. All of this depends on a couple’s finances. Plan how much to save and how to spread it over the different asset classes, depending on the liquidity you need. Get into the habit of regular financial check-ins, and don't shy away from making room for individual goals. Make allowances for each partner's aspirations, leisure time and career breaks, allowing flexibility in the financial plan and your shared future. An ideal financial plan for couples There is no one specific way to go about planning your finances. Couples must stick to what works best for them. While some couples may choose to keep their finances separate, some might prefer clubbing the incomes and sharing expenses while some might choose to strike a balance between the both. However, for those lost in this maze, Gupta and Joseph lay down a simple blueprint. Joseph says, “Distinguishing between common and individual expenses is vital. Joint responsibilities like rent payments, should be shared, while personal expenditures, such as phone EMIs, should come from personal budgets.” Gupta adds, “Keep your budget realistic and flexible, considering all your income sources and categorising the expenses. The idea is for each to take accountability and accordingly allocate funds for savings, emergencies, and personal discretionary spending. It is a straightforward act to avoid conflict. Reviewing and adjusting this budget regularly will ensure that each of you feels heard and seen in making financial decisions.” Implementing strategies, like joint accounts or dividing responsibilities for specific categories, helps in efficient financial management. Leveraging online tools and platforms can also streamline the process. Gupta suggests, “A certain percentage of the money each partner makes, ideally a one-third, should go into a joint account, while the other third goes into covering compartments that one is financially responsible for, and the remaining goes into an individual account.” Couples can also maintain individual autonomy while collaborating on shared responsibilities, toeing the line between independence and mutual support. It allows you to pursue your goals and make career choices without being held back or compromising your aspirations. Flexibility in financial planning is crucial. Josephy suggests against setting hard and fast rules. Instead, mutual agreement and joint discussions should guide financial decisions. Imposing strict structures can lead to conflicts, whereas openness to concerns and adaptation promote a more harmonious financial partnership. Even in instances of overspending or deviation from agreed categories, clear communication and boundaries are essential. Parent’s involvement in couple’s financial planning When speaking about future planning for couples, we hardly think of parent’s involvement. However, this aspect cannot be dismissed as irrelevant given that most individuals in committed relationships, especially in India, might not have complete financial independence. Poddar sheds light on men and women who contribute towards running their own family business and thus, don’t necessarily earn a monthly income. The financial decisions in such individual’s lives are largely driven by their parent’s actions. This can especially be a matter of concern for women marrying men belonging to families where the financial decision rests in the hands of elders. In such cases, Poddar suggests having a clear communication of what finance would be like post-marriage. “In my pre-marital counselling sessions, this is a major topic of discussion, especially with people who are entering patriarchal setups where the finances are in control of the inlaws. Family businesses in India, even today, operate in a way where women are kept out of financial matters,” says Poddar. In such cases, she suggests, it is always better to ask relevant questions like what kind of autonomy will one have over their own earned money, who will be the decision maker when it comes to the expenses of a couple, what kind of financial freedom will a couple have after marriage, and more. The best solution to avoid the ills of patriarchal control according to Poddar is having financial autonomy, especially for women. Red flags concerning financial transparency Two people have to be on the same page on their vision of a future. However, financial planning for most couples can be a tumultuous journey. Experts list below some of the red flags that couples must look out for: A big red flag is when the spending habits are vastly different. If one is very frugal and the other has a taste for the finer things in life, it can complicate things. Similarly, if two people are both spendthrifts, then effective planning and execution of a budget could be challenging as each may need help to adhere to a cohesive plan. Further, sometimes, if socioeconomic backgrounds are vastly different, they influence partners’ spending habits and make it harder to bridge the gaps. Another major red flag is one of the partners does not have financial independence and their finances are largely controlled by the family. A partner not being open about their finances, debts, loans, salary etc. and being unavailable to have conversations about finance is also a red flag. The significance of financial management within a couple's relationship cannot be overstated. It's a delicate balance that requires open communication, compromise, and mutual respect. By embracing transparency, reaching compromises, and nurturing flexibility, couples can cultivate a healthier financial landscape, laying the groundwork for a more fulfilling and enduring partnership.
12 December,2023 07:00 PM IST | Mumbai | Aakanksha AhireIn the dynamic world of love, the influence of financial and sexual preferences in forging meaningful connections cannot be underestimated. A recent survey conducted by happn, the real-life dating app, has shed light on the intricate nuances of what Indian singles seek in their partners. The survey, conducted among diverse age groups, clearly indicates that while navigating the intricate tapestry of Indian relationships, there is room for growth and transformation in the way these preferences are perceived and addressed. Sex and relationshipsAccording to the survey, 80 per cent of Indian singles above 35 years old prioritised sexual compatibility when it comes to dating. A gender gap is apparent, with men generally placing higher importance on sexual compatibility compared to women. Open communication about sexual preferences is highly valued by 70 per cent of respondents, highlighting the importance for early and candid discussions in modern relationships. happn also concluded that more than 90 per cent of singles in India, particularly women, are happy to initiate conversations about sexual health and safety, indicating a positive shift towards prioritising sexual well-being. The survey also reveals that a lack of sex education or awareness is not necessarily a deal-breaker for most respondents. While 40 per cent of individuals in the 35 and above age group consider it a concern, a significant proportion believes it doesn't matter. This suggests that there is room for improvement in raising awareness and educating people about sexual health in India. Financial preferencesAccording to the singles on the app, financial preferences are also very important in relationships, especially at the moment, a financially difficult period. Owing to its last survey, the dating app concluded that across all age groups, financial stability emerges as crucial to 49 per cent. The Gen Z is the one who prioritises financial stability more than their older counterparts. Secondly, the survey reveals that 77 per cent of Indian singles are comfortable if their partner earns more than they do . Men and women generally share this sentiment, though it’s interesting to note that women (90 per cent) from the 18-25 age group are most comfortable with this scenario which suggests that traditional gender roles related to earning may still influence perceptions, especially among younger women. The Gen Z agree with their partner’s financial condition being an important factor while picking a potential partner while there is a large gender gap in the 26-35 age range with fewer women (8 per cent) than men being influenced by this factor. The survey also revealed that 56 per cent believe in splitting bills on dates, considering it fair and convenient. This indicates evolving attitudes toward gender roles in dating, with younger generations leaning towards financial equality and older generations adhering to more traditional practices. The survey has made it evident that the landscape of modern relationships is marked by a fusion of evolving values and traditions. Financial stability, sexual compatibility, and open communication about intimate matters are central to the fabric of modern love. While some findings reinforce the persistence of traditional gender roles, Gen Z highlights a progressive shift towards equality in financial matters and prioritising sexual well-being. happn's survey has not only highlighted these nuances but also emphasises the importance of fostering open dialogue, understanding, and education to create more fulfilling relationships in India.
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11 December,2023 02:22 PM IST | MUMBAI | AdvertorialMuch has been said about Gen-Z dating patterns, exploring both the advancements and occasional shortcomings in their pursuit of love and romance. The Indian dating app QuackQuack has noticed that in the dynamic landscape of modern dating, Generation Z is reshaping traditional gender roles, particularly in the context of online dating. A recent study by the app shows that 43 per cent of Gen-Z, as opposed to 21 per cent of Millennials, think the traditional gender roles in online dating are evolving. The app's online poll analyses the various aspects that encompass this shift. About 15,000 online daters, 18 to 30, spanning metropolitan and small cities and suburbs, participated in the study. The app's founder and CEO, Ravi Mittal, said, "We currently have 28M+ users, and from close observation, we have seen a remarkable and consistent change in the gender dynamics. We've observed a significant shift, with women confidently taking the initiative and men embracing vulnerability, expressing emotions more openly than the preceding generation of daters. Online dating is heading in the right direction when it comes to gender equality." Chivalry in the digital ageChivalry, once confined to male-centric traditions, has transcended gender boundaries. In the QuackQuack consumer study, 45 per cent of users between 18 and 25 mentioned that Gen Z daters are reshaping chivalry as acts of respect and consideration. It is no longer just synonymous with opening doors and pulling out chairs. While people still occasionally enjoy the traditional gestures, men are no longer dictated as the exclusive initiators; they can also expect the same from their counterparts. 18 per cent of men said their matches had held a door open, offered to pay the entire bill, and even got them flowers on the first date. About 37 per cent of women said their expression of chivalry might be different at times, ranging from thoughtful messages, checking up on their partner, and shared responsibilities in a relationship, going the extra mile for their partner, but it is chivalry nevertheless. The evolving definition of the act reflects a desire for mutual respect and a positive shift in gender-specific roles. The first move to the next moveFor a very long time, men were expected to make the first move - from sending the first text and bracing for rejection to asking their matches out on a date - men had to do all the heavy work, said 29 per cent of men above 30. However, the study shows how Gen-Z is challenging this norm and creating a positive shift in this trend. A growing number of individuals, regardless of gender, feel empowered to make the first move. The stigma surrounding women initiating conversations or expressing interest first, being judged as too loose or desperate for attention, is diminishing, fostering a more unbiased approach to dating dynamics. 23 per cent of men under 28 revealed being approached by women. Both men and women in Gen-Z are comfortable taking the lead, enabling a more equal approach to planning and organizing romantic engagements. VulnerabilityIn the study, 47 per cent of Gen-Z daters from Tier-1 and Tier-2 cities explained that the stereotype that men don't cry, or "real men" don't express their discomfort or pain, is slowly being banished in today's day and age. Gen Z daters are embracing emotional openness and vulnerability, challenging the notion that expressing feelings is a sign of weakness. This shift allows individuals to be authentic and transparent about their emotions without fear of judgment or societal expectations. On the other hand, women are no longer afraid to speak their hearts
04 December,2023 05:56 PM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondentFor many decades, people have been fascinated and alarmed by infidelity. Although several elements contribute to this complex phenomenon, one important but frequently ignored factor emerges: emotional separation. To examine the online dating behaviours of Indians going through a midlife crisis, Gleeden, the top discreet dating app in India, commissioned a thorough study from IPSOS, a renowned worldwide market research expert, in February 2023. For the study, 1,500 people were polled from Tier 1 and Tier 2 Indian cities, including Bangalore, Kochi, Hyderabad Delhi, Ludhiana, Kolkata, Patna, Mumbai, Ahmedabad, Indore, Guwahati and Jaipur. According to the survey, the majority of them stated that they were emotionally unhappy in their marriages and emotional disconnect was one of the factors contributing to infidelity. Understanding emotional disconnectThe chances of infidelity exist when there is an emotional detachment between spouses. Partners frequently drift emotionally apart as a result of the hectic modern lifestyle, changing societal conventions and growing expectations of people. When it comes to communication, quality time spent together or rising emotional gaps, this divergence may at first seem modest. 26 per cent of the population claims that they are partially happy in their relationship, 6 per cent from Ahmedabad, 4 per cent from Indore, 8 per cent from Guwahati and 6 per cent from Patna claim that they are facing emotional disconnect from their partners. Motivation behind infidelityEven though it is generally frowned upon, infidelity can be a seductive means of escape for those who are experiencing emotional emptiness. This is especially true in a society that is still developing free discourse on emotional discontent in partnerships. Tier 2 cities are feeling an emotional disconnect as compared to Tier 1 cities (1 per cent from Kolkata, 1 per cent from Delhi, 0 per cent from Mumbai, 2 per cent from Bangalore, 6 per cent from Ahmedabad, 4 per cent from Indore, 8 per cent from Guwahati and 6 per cent from Patna). The attraction of finding emotional comfort and belonging outside the primary connection can be potent in such a situation. “The preservation of social and familial ties holds great significance in the deeply traditional Indian civilisation. However, under these structures, personal goals and emotional needs can occasionally take a back seat. This creates circumstances where people, particularly women, may look for emotional fulfilment in relationships other than their primary ones. Women are frequently expected to take care of others, which leaves them with few opportunities for emotional expression and personal development,” says Sybil Shiddell, Country Manager, Gleeden, India. Emotional infidelity in the digital ageAccording to the survey, more females are left emotionally unsatisfied as compared to males (36 per cent of females and 32 per cent of males). The emergence of the digital age has altered the nature of relationships, allowing for the development of emotional ties beyond geographic boundaries. Online communities, messaging services and social media sites provide avenues for people to create emotional connections with others outside of romantic partnerships, which can lead to infidelity. The strength of the emotional bonds formed through these platforms can be on par with those formed physically, illustrating how technology can amplify emotional isolation. The way outA crucial first step is to have an open conversation about emotional needs, expectations and objectives. To keep emotional closeness as a cornerstone of their relationship, both partners must consciously work to comprehend each other's emotional landscapes. According to the survey, 33 per cent of respondents believe that one of the main factors contributing to infidelity is emotional separation. It is crucial to comprehend the complex facets of infidelity as relationships change and society evolves. Emotional remoteness, which is frequently downplayed by more evident reasons, can have a big negative impact on relationships. Recognising and addressing these emotional gaps could result in stronger collaborations in the Indian context. By placing emotional connection at the core of relationships, individuals can make an effort to bridge these gaps, develop trust, and eventually overcome the allure of infidelity.Also Read: Betrayed in love: Emotional cheating leading to heartbreaks in couples
04 December,2023 04:38 PM IST | Mumbai | mid-day online correspondentADVERTISEMENT
