Dear Diana,
I am a 32-year-old man, whose penis size is 2.5 inches when erect. Due to this, I have not been able to achieve any success in my relationship with women and so entered into a gay relationship.

But my partner also repeatedly complains of my small size and how I am not able to satisfy him. He says he cannot feel me inside him, just the way the women used to complain.

Both of us really love each other and want to spend our lives together. While his family will accept a bride from a different community, they will never accept a gay partner.

He suggested that I undergo a sex change operation (since my physical act anyway is not satisfactory while his is). I want to know how to go about this and if there are any pitfalls. Is the process reversible? And will I be able to bear a child after the operation? How do we keep this a secret from his family?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Let me get this straight. You couldn't pleasure women, so you got into a gay relationship! And now you love him and want to get married to him? Let me spell this outu00a0-- either you are gay, or you are not gay. You cannot become gay because of something that happens.

So firstly you need to figure out your orientation. You cannot seriously be considering a sex change operation. It is a life-changing decision and one that you cannot take lightly. You need to speak to a sexologist. A sex change operation is not reversible.

You will never be able to bear a child. And you cannot keep this a secret from his family. The transformation takes years and a series of operations. It is not overnight and it isn't going to be easy. And it will cost lakhs. You need to think this through.u00a0

Am upset with my friend's behaviour...

Dear Diana,
My friend has not yet returned my prized book I had lent her three months back. Whenever I ask her, she says she will soon but doesn't do it. How do I get it back?