Dear Diana,
My husband would physically and mentally abuse me. This became worse during my pregnancy and I miscarried. After this, he became better for a while and has only hit me twice during serious arguments. I still can't get over how he treated me and even though he is good now, it still affects the relationship. Should I end it?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Any man who physically and mentally abuses his spouse for any reason doesn't get any sympathy. Continued abuse shows that he won't change his ways. This behaviour will continue without abating. You shouldn't let that anger fade away. Know that the more you put up with this, you empower him to treat you even worse. He may be "good" now but it's only a phase that won't last. End the relationship. Don't even think. It's not worth being a glutton for punishment.

I'm weirded out my something I used to enjoy

Dear Diana,
I'm 36 and in a relationship with a 30-year-old girl. She is married to another guy but we love to have sex (it's been five years now). Trouble is, we used to enjoy going down on each other and now, I feel very odd just going through with it. Will continuing oral sex lead to us having skin problems on our face?