Natural ways to lift a woman's libido

Experts have suggested some natural ways to lift your libido Declare a weeklong bedroom ban quotThanks to programmes like 39Sex And The City39 and glossy magazines women often feel pressure to perform in the bedroom ufffd even after a long day at work or with the childrenquot the Daily Mail quoted Dr Lisa Turner psychologist and founder of TheOCoachcom as saying quotThis can damage your sex drive as it stops you being present emotionally One method I recommend to help relax is eye gazing ufffd sitting naked in front of your partner without touching or speaking for shyseveral minutes to make you aware of your body again quotIt can also help to ban intercourse for a week but have sensual touching every day without expectation of arousal We often become so orgasmfocused we forget the pleasure of a loved one39s touchquot she added Spice up your menu Amy Reiley aphrodisiac expert and author of The Love Diet cookbook says If your libido needs a boost plan a romantic meal Seafood in general is great for the libido but particularly Mediterranean mussels An amino acid in them directly raises sexual shyhormone levels for men and women Also try celery or fennel which have a natural shyoestrogenlike substance which can kickstart your libido Certain foods and wines can give off human pheremonelike smells body scents said to excite sexual instinct Try champagne or shytruffles for potent aromas Or for something different the scents of cucumber and licorice have been shown to arouse women too Coffee can be a great aphrodisiac It has shybeneficial antioxidants to help keep you young and improves mood And that mood lifter with the zing of caffeine can be just what you need to inspire a move from the table to the bed Read a racy novel ufffd or even Jane Austen quotLiterature of any kind particularly erotic literature is a really safe place to experiment A lot of women worry about lovemaking because they don39t know what they likequot said KD Grace erotic novelist and author of The Initiation Of Ms Holly quotUnlike erotic images on screen the written word is more subtle and allows us to use our imagination One of the most erotic books I39ve read is Gone With The Wind although it has no blatant sex scenes Jane Austen novels are extremely sexy tooquot she added Sexercise quotA ballet instructor told me 39If understand your pelvic floor muscles not only will your posture improve but your sex life will go through the roof39quot said Loren Barclay personal trainer who devised 39Coregasm39 exercise classes quotStrengthening these core muscles that span the pelvis can spice up sex for all women It improves your confidence in the bedroom and can increase sensation One simple exercise is a parallel squat with a netball or equivalent between the legs ufffd this builds tension from the thighs to the pelvic floorquot he added Make more ufffd or less ufffd time for each other Paula Hall sex and relationship therapist said quotIf sex is no longer on your agenda think about whether there are any difficulties in your relationship Often lack of intimacy is down to couples spending so little time together due to work or children So schedule time for each other Drop the kids off with your mother or a babysitter Talk on the phone at lunchtime quotBut you may even have the opposite problem ufffd too much time together This often affects couples who work with each other Take a step back ufffd discover separate interests to make time together specialquot Invest in stockings and suspenders Andressa Rando Favorito lingerie buyersaid quotBuying some beautiful luxury lingerie can instantly make you feel more powerful and sexy quotInstead of putting on an unattractive pair of tights for a romantic dinner or even before a day in the office try holdups or lacy stockings and matching suspenders teamed with a cheeky pair of knickers It gives your confidence a boost There39s something to make you feel sexy whatever your shapequot Get him in a pinny Siobhan Freegard a relationships website founder said quotIn a major survey we conducted thousands of women revealed their top tips to boost their libidos quotThey didn39t want chocolates and flowers from men but preferred offers to do the washing up or put the kids to bed Those precious minutes to relax can get you in the mood for sex quotAlso be nice to each other Have a hug Tuck the kids up get an easycook meal and have a 39date39 night inquot Location location location Sam Roddick director of an erotic emporium saidu00a0quotIn a longterm relationship confining your lovemaking to the bedroom can get boring Why not enjoy other rooms You don39t have to race upstairs if the mood hits you quotAlso think about your love life if you39re decorating ufffd good lighting can create exciting sexy moodsquot Just do it Keren Smedley over 45s life coach said quotAs we get older women39s bodies change We tend to compare ourselves to younger women or gorgeous toned older ladies like Helen Mirren which can dampen our libido So focus on the bits you do like You may still have great eyes or fantastic legs But most of all just get on with it Once you start you may be surprised by how much you still enjoy sexquot