Divorced singles say chemistry is great for remarriage but they want more

Chemistry is great but the feeling of finding your safe space in someone is greater says over 49 per cent of divorced and separated singles according to a new surveyIn a survey by Indian matchmaking app Rebounce the majority of the previously married singles shared that their decision to remarry is primarily driven by the feeling of emotional safety with a match The mindset makes the secondchance seekers approach to love quite different from that of firsttime daters These singles are not chasing chemistry and leaving things up to fate they want emotional security consistency predictability and above all peaceThe study was conducted among 9475 divorced and separated singles using matchmaking and matrimony apps seeking a second chance between April and June 2026 Participants ranged in age from 28 to 45 and belonged to metros suburbs and rural regions The study indicates that with remarriages becoming more common among Indians emotional safety may soon become the biggest indicator of success in a longterm relationship The apps founder and CEO Ravi Mittal said We might think that after getting a divorce when people look for a second chance all they do is ensure that they dont fall for the same qualities as their exspouse Thats not true people dont just redefine their type Instead they add on to the list and give more priority to things they didnt bother about in their past relationship Emotional safety has topped as the one thing that almost all divorced singles have added to their checklistFreedom to disagreeConflict according to 8 in 10 divorced and separated singles from Tier 1 and 2 cities is not concerning anymore In fact these singles revealed gauging potential partners by their way of handling conflicts Nearly 47 per cent of participants agreed that they feel that a connection has longterm potential when they can disagree with their partner freely without worrying about being punished with stonewalling silent treatment or hurting their partners ego Ajay Verma divorced for two years from Delhi said For me fights are not an issue couples will fight but being able to disagree with my partner during a fight or being able to let the argument go after one point thats what matters Suppressing opinions is never healthy for a marriageLove is measured by predictabilityThe survey suggests that previously married singles are redefining attraction One of the significant trends picked up among the divorced singles is their inclination toward predictable connections Nearly 43 per cent of previously married men and women between 30 and 40 years clarified that they are more attracted to people whose behavior and effort remain constant over time While many respondents noted that their younger selves were drawn to mystery and spontaneity their lived experience has made them appreciate predictability Anushka 39 said The 25yearold Anushka would say predictability is so boring but trust me my present self knows that having a predictable partner is a blessing Following through promises and regular communication thats what makes a marriage workThe after interaction feelingOne interesting finding from the survey data highlighted how divorced singles are very meticulously aware of every interaction with a match and the entire matchmaking process They not only care about the conversations but 37 per cent also mentioned that they analyse how the interaction left them feeling after 29 per cent of women said that instead of asking Do I like this person they look into factors like whether the conversation made them feel lighter whether they were able to be themselves if they felt respected heard or if they felt emotionally drained