There is no quick fix for a broken heart. Yes, Häagen Dazs and Hugh Grant help, the former more than the latter. But you will soon realise the sweet nothings and charming men only make you even more acutely aware of your own loneliness. Seema Punwani, whose sensitive debut novel 'Cross Connections' tackles the subject of finding love a second time, through a fictional tale, delves into her own experience to give you 10 big reasons that hold divorced women back from finding the man of their dreams.

Crying is ok, as long as there is a deadline: Get the tears out of your system. Give it a deadline. One week. One month. No longer. And cry to your hearts' content. And then say 'times up'!