Ever wondered why things go wrong during amorous and passionate bedroom trysts? Well, a new study has given the answer, by finding that men frequently misread signals from women that they want to slow down, and women are often indirect in saying what they mean. u00a0 According to UC Davis communication professor Michael Motley, faulty male introspection may explain why men so often misinterpret women's indirect messages to stop or slow down the escalation of sexual intimacy. <table class="ae_noborder" cellspacing="2" cellpadding="2" width="200" align="left" border="0"> <tbody> <tr> <td><img alt="" src="/imagedata/2011/may/argue.jpg" border="0" />u00a0</td></tr></tbody></table>"When she says 'It's getting late,' he may hear 'So let's skip the preliminaries,'" Motley said. u00a0 "The problem is that he is interpreting what she said by trying to imagine what he would mean -- and the only reason he can imagine saying 'It's getting late' while making out is to mean 'Let's speed things up'" he added. u00a0 Motley calls it the "introspection" explanation. u00a0 "Males' inferred meanings for women's indirect sexual resistance messages are more similar to the meanings males would have intended by those same messages than to the meanings women intend," he said. u00a0 Previous research has found that up to 85 percent of college women have had at least one experience in which a man attempts to escalate physical intimacy beyond the point that she has said "stop," experiences they usually regard as unpleasant. u00a0 His findings are based on surveys of male and female undergraduates. He investigated their reactions to 16 common "female resistance messages" -- and found that the subtle ones fall flat. Telling a man "let's be friends" as a brushoff was as likely to be interpreted as 'keep going' as 'stop,' " he found. u00a0 In one study, Motley gave 30 female and 60 male UC Davis undergraduates a multiple-choice questionnaire that asked about 16 common "female resistance messages." The messages ranged from very direct -- "Let's stop this" -- to very indirect -- "I'm seeing someone else." Four potential interpretations were listed for each message; only one was "stop." u00a0 For "I'm seeing someone else," for example, the following four interpretations were listed: a) You want to go further but you want him to know that it doesn't mean that you're committed to him; b) You want to go further but you want him to be discreet, so that the other guy doesn't find out; c) You want to go further but you want him to realize, in case you end up "going together," that you may do this with someone else while you're seeing him; d) You don't want to go further. u00a0 The women in the study were asked to recall a time when they used one of the messages, and to choose the answer that best matched what they meant when they said it.

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